The Arrogant Man

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#1 Jul 30th, 2010, 11:03
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I have been watching people in public places, on the roads, in trains and buses etc. and the arrogant behaviour of people makes me wonder why we are becoming so arrogant and self centred more and more. Youngsters a few years back were much more restrained,lovable and respectable in their behavior as they were more willing to listen and understand. Now many of them think that they know all and they are authorities in everything and many parents are really scared of their children's reactions. Is it because technology has made them feel that they know everything and they have all the answers? People in general are becoming impatient and aggressive to one another for no reason at all and shouting matches go on. Is it a problem of generation gap, growing old and inability to understand the present on my part or is it for real, I wonder.
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besides the points you mentioned i reckon the busy life which people have adopted is main reason. earlier we used to spend time socially but not we meet electronically. i remember we (friends) used to meet & discus things and appraise ourselves, but now only virtual meets happen. now it seems people have tied themselves to only their work, and work pressure is taking the toll. never had heard that 35yrs old having heart attack but not these kinda news can be read... just the way of living affects the mind, attitude & behavior of a person, and the arrogance which can be seen now a days is only for the reason that a person is not giving time to even himself... desperation & frustration comes out...
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You're becoming westernised. Its materialism. Its media. Its better education. Its breakdown of social constraints and hierarchies. Its decay of old values. Its less time with families doing old fashioned things together. Its modern life. Its what most people in india seem to want. It goes with the greater wealth.
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Originally Posted by narayanvee View Post Youngsters a few years back were much more restrained,lovable and respectable in their behavior as they were more willing to listen and understand.
I think you are looking at the past through rose-tinted spectacles. As a "youngster" I was abominable, and so were all my cohorts.
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My dad used to lament the same way... may be my grandpa did the same and now it is MY turn !!!!
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Originally Posted by narayanvee View Post Youngsters a few years back were much more restrained,lovable and respectable in their behavior as they were more willing to listen and understand. Now many of them think that they know all and they are authorities in everything and many parents are really scared of their children's reactions. Is it because technology has made them feel that they know everything and they have all the answers?
Don't grumble at what you create, now you can only endure as it can't be controlled anymore. Youngsters behaviour most often a reflection of the values they have imbibed during the first 13 or so years of their lives. If they were listened to with respect and understanding and parents met their emotional needs, they usually they turn out to be well adjusted adults. When things ,instant gratification , outward appearance etc., are give more importance than simplicity, patience, sharing etc. in their formative years what else do you expect!
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I hope the incredible hospitality that most Indians have does not go the same way as in the West. There's not many people in the West that would welcome you into their homes and treat you like a real guest.
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It's a generational thing. My Dad used to rant about my clothes, hair, loud music, being out all the time etc. His Dad did the same. As someone who enjoyed the 60's I hope I am more tolerant with my kids and try hard not to criticise their way of life.
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Originally Posted by CliveG View Post It's a generational thing. My Dad used to rant about my clothes, hair, loud music, being out all the time etc. His Dad did the same. As someone who enjoyed the 60's I hope I am more tolerant with my kids and try hard not to criticise their way of life.
I think I belong to your club mate...
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Nice observation Narayanvee and I have observed the same.

If I look at the phenomena that you describe I can think of a number of factors that in combination is causing this:

1. Exposure to the western ways since the advent of commercial TV (I mean private broadcasters and international feeds).
2. Growth of IT in such a way that Indians feels that they are equal or better than those in the West.
3. The craze of making money and disregard for savings.
4. Investment opportunities in the stock market.
5. The housing boom - here I mean the ability to get a mortgage for a house in your late 20's-early 30's whereas in my parents generation, typically people "constructed" a house on getting their "pension" - or some sort of variations of that - eg, get a house loan at the age of 50 from one's Provident Fund to build a house for retirement.
6. In combination of many of the above points, the general attitude resulting from easy "credit" - whether it is buying "stuff" or taking "vacations". If one looks at the marketing gimmicks of credit lenders the focus is on "EMI". A commodity or high priced item or even a vacation to Switzerland or Hong Kong is rarely shown the "retail price" in advertisements, rather "easy EMI payments".
7. Arrogance is also a means of showing their importance or at least that's what these people think.

Essentially, we are aping the West - they went through this phenomena in the 1970-80's.

Funny, after living in the West for 28 years and having all kinds of credit cards - never carried a balance, after over 2 years in India I still do not own an Indian credit card. I pay cash for everything while Indians love to flash their CC. It reminds me of the "show-off" Indians I have seen shouting on their mobile phone, only to learn that they were not talking with anyone - it was all a drama.

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Originally Posted by jyotirmoy View Post My dad used to lament the same way... may be my grandpa did the same and now it is MY turn !!!!
I agree. Every generation seems to think they had/have it right, and the younger generations are hopeless, rude, etc.

I think in general though, people (not just younger people) are less civil toward each other. Or maybe I'm just more aware of it now than when I was younger?
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I was arrogant enough, even, (with some trepidation) to think that this thread might be about me!




<wanders off in relief, but to the accompaniment of You're so vain>
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Originally Posted by Nick-H View Post I was arrogant enough, even, (with some trepidation) to think that this thread might be about me!
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Heyy...!!!
But, isn't it...???????

Cheers...!
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Thanks... I was relieved too.

Arrogance. We Brits know a lot about arrogance: I really wish we knew less
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Golghar's got it. In my next life I will be kinder to (a) the women in my life and (b) my in laws..
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