India's switched-at-birth babies who refused to swap back

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Interesting item that throws light on many aspects of Indian society.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-india-42743982

What would you do in such circumstances?

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India's switched-at-birth babies who refused to swap back

Me too.

Read this tale yesterday and was moved by the fact that the choice of the three-year-olds is being respected.

I'm a firm believer in nurture over nature, and that biology and genetics is just mechanics. And the background to my belief is that I am an adopted child.

... And, on the perhaps-less-rational side of things, that yes, sometimes things do happen for "a reason" and people end up in the "right" places.
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Comments about the children's non-resemblance to their parents will dog them forever. For general consumption, they're going to have to say they're adopted.

The hospital really should have its license revoked. Not for the switch. Anyone can make a mistake. But the way they stonewalled and harassed the investigating parent is just obscene.
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Originally Posted by Matka View Post ... But the way they stonewalled and harassed the investigating parent is just obscene.
Very much so. Could have been sorted out before emotional ties were formed.
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I'll never forget this news item from a few years ago:
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The mix-up only emerged after Yulia Belyaeva - who had brought Irina up believing her to be her own daughter - arranged a DNA test, because her former husband was refusing to pay maintenance.

The test showed that in fact neither of them was her natural parent and further research uncovered the hospital's mistake.
http://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-15521803

And the NYTimes has more details.
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There is a nice Japanese movie on the subject of “switched at birth” and the Nature vs. Nurture debate showcasing parent-child relationships in contemporary Japan, made by Hirokazu Kore-eda.

Like Father, Like Son (そして父になる Soshite Chichi ni Naru)

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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pudd%27nhead_Wilson

Of course in Mark Twain's day nobody had a clue about DNA but this story was written decades before fingerprints came to be accepted as forensic evidence.
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Originally Posted by Nick-H View Post Me too.

Read this tale yesterday and was moved by the fact that the choice of the three-year-olds is being respected.

I'm a firm believer in nurture over nature, and that biology and genetics is just mechanics. And the background to my belief is that I am an adopted child.

... And, on the perhaps-less-rational side of things, that yes, sometimes things do happen for "a reason" and people end up in the "right" places.
Absolutely agree! NO WAY would I give up the child I loved for 3 years but I do admire how the families are handling this. I believe each couple will end up with 2 children to love. I wish them all the best.
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Originally Posted by Nick-H View Post I'm a firm believer in nurture over nature, and that biology and genetics is just mechanics.
What is the application of debate, the nature-nurture, in this context ?
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Maybe the implication is that regardless of parentage, how the child is raised is the main factor. Raising someone elses child in a loving way, as your own, will produce a similar child to how your own biological child would have turned out...

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Originally Posted by OldandRambling View Post Maybe the implication is that regardless of parentage, how the child is raised is the main factor. Raising someone elses child in a loving way, as your own, will produce a similar child to how your own biological child would have turned out...

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Another option is to go to a center in India, where such a course is happening while you are staying in India (if you stay longer than your present 3 weeks).
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My mum always told me to say something nice, or say nothing at all.

Fascinating, heartbreaking and heartwarming story all at the same time!

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Originally Posted by NomadicBoo View Post My mum always told me to say something nice, or say nothing at all.

Fascinating, heartbreaking and heartwarming story all at the same time!

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child is raised is the main factor. Raising someone elses child in a loving way, as your own, will produce a similar child to how your own biological child would have turned out...

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