Unmarried, interracial and in India

#16 Jan 27th, 2010, 17:44
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Which is this law ?
Please go through the complete Hindu marriage act and Family Act 1957.

For the best results, Talk to any family lawyer.
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Originally Posted by labrol View Post twenty tourist trips in last two years with as many locations and as many hotels including government tourism hotels, backpacker hotels and expensive resorts, accompanied by very white European friend of the other gender. Never any questions. Not even eye brows raised. At a couple of places I had a polite question coming to me in Hindi about my relationship with the woman. I always looked the fellow in the eye and said,'friend'.
Yes, you said it best!
Me (brownie) and wife (vanilla) have never had any problems whatsoever. Caveat: we have always stayed at high-end hotels, and I can see why there may be a difference at mid-scale or backpacker type establishments. It shouldn't, but such is our world.

A very confident, "We are together, and don't ask why" attitude - both verbally and confirmed by equally confident body language should suffice in most instances. They do want your moolah, after all.
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No Dear !

It's nowhere written ?

I think you need a full reading of this act first !

May be you can talk to your family lawyer also I don't have any.

The only place where the act talks about the registration is in section 8 which is reproduced below:

8. Registration of Hindu marriages.- (1) For the purpose of facilitating the proof of Hindu marriages, the State Government may make rules providing that the parties to any such marriage may have the particulars relating to their marriage entered in such manner and subject to such conditions as may be prescribed in a Hindu Marriage Register kept for the purpose.

(2) Notwithstanding anything contained in sub-section (1), the State Government may, if it is of opinion that it is necessary or expedient so to do, provide that the entering of the particulars referred to in sub-section (1) shall be compulsory in the State or in any part thereof, whether in all cases or in such cases as may be specified, and where any such direction has been issued, any person contravening any rule made in this behalf shall be punishable with fine which may extend to twenty-five rupees.

(3) All rules made under this section shall be laid before the State Legislature, as soon as may be, after they are made.

(4) The Hindu Marriage Register shall at all reasonable times be open for inspection, and shall be admissible as evidence of the statements therein contained and certified extracts therefrom shall, on application, be given by the Registrar on payment to him of the prescribed fee.

(5) Notwithstanding anything contained in this section, the validity of any Hindu marriage shall in no way be affected by the omission to make the entry.





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#19 Jan 31st, 2010, 00:38
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My wife is Indian and i'm European and yes, people stare at us having their thoughts.(this also happens in Europe though)

Nowadays we carry some kids and have our names in the passports, so no problem.

One time, shortly after our marriage, in some Chennai hotel we had to prove evidence that we were married. According to the staff police- control or something.

When traveling i always carry copies of documents to prove my "status", just in case
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In the worst case scenario you might be blackmailed by the police or Hotel staff who want a big tip since it's against the law for unmarried couples to live in the same hotel room.
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Do you have any reference for that. I never seen or heard of any.
#22 Jan 23rd, 2011, 09:28
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Reading around the threads, there have been instances where this has happened. The law as such I think is archaic, but some hoteliers will use this when it suits them, or they have a policy along these guidelines, for their place.
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I dont think it will be a problem for both of you. Just carry your ID card. And try getting a good hotel rather than cheap hotels. In jaipur, udaipur they (the cheap hotels) will not allow unmarried couple (indian boyfrnd & girlfrnd) to stay, bcoz they think the guy has come with a prostitute for a night.

But when the same couple goes to a good hotel, costing Rs 2000/- per day they are welcomed with lots of respect . Seems so awkward but this is what happened with one of my frnd.
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Rohan, while that is certainly how it is in most places and most experiences might closely mirror that, it would be good to know where the law stands on such issues.
Yes Prostitution and Soliciting for paid sex is illegal in India, but a genuine couple(unmarried) or any other relationship sharing a room and getting harassed is not good. It might help if you know where you stand from a legal standpoint.

I don't have an issue with hotels/lodges having rules which disallow unmarried couples, but someone getting harassed by the police late at night would be very painful.
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Originally Posted by narendra.d View Post Rohan, while that is certainly how it is in most places and most experiences might closely mirror that, it would be good to know where the law stands on such issues.
Yes Prostitution and Soliciting for paid sex is illegal in India, but a genuine couple(unmarried) or any other relationship sharing a room and getting harassed is not good. It might help if you know where you stand from a legal standpoint.

I don't have an issue with hotels/lodges having rules which disallow unmarried couples, but someone getting harassed by the police late at night would be very painful.
Yes Narendra, I totally second you and it will be very painful getting into trouble in the middle of the night.

Yes i would also like to know the indian rule, but i have one more concern to ask or to debate on, do indian hotels or police really go by the rule. They do the damage spoiling our vacation and then by the time we approach the Court, it takes months and some time years to get it solved and finally we find our shelves in the middle of lots of problem.
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?? Was that something related to this thread ??
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My friend (a white girl) and I traveled all over India and stayed mostly in cheap hotels. Eyebrows were often raised (although that could also have been at the fact that we were both above 6 feet tall :P) and whenever questioned about the nature of our relationship I looked the person in the eye and said "friend"

We faced a bit of a problem in the Paharganj area of Delhi once but were also welcomed with huge smiles by an old Rajasthani couple in a backpacker lodge in Udaipur.

By the way, we raised as many eyebrows in the US as in India.
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