Getting married again; reaffirming the vows after 60

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Are you sixty years old? Are you married? Is your spouse still alive? Then start immediately. Go to Thirukkadayoor Temple. Get married again!.

It is not a joke. The day you complete your sixtieth year, you should come here with your wife. You should celebrate your sixtieth birthday in front of this temple. You should marry again and seek the blessings of Annai Abhiramiyamma. Life span, health, happiness and prosperity- all these will be showered on you.
Thirukkadaiyur in eastern coast of Tamil Nadu has special rituals to get married again after the husband turns 60.

Interesting article.




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The couple in the second pic look more like they have been doing the 80-eth birthday celebration!
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Isn't it a way of extracting money by exploiting emotions...
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One might have confused this with this.

Or perhaps, it is a two for one deal.

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Sreekanthan says that there is nobody in Tamilnadu who have never visited Thirukkadayoor to pray for holy married life.
I know quite a few people. So there.

and i never saw so many times the word "Should" used in terms of what rituals are to be performed in other articles i read.
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Shastiapthapoorthi (60th birthday), Bhimaradha shanthi (70th birthday), Sadabishegam (80th birthday) is a common practice among Tamilians. Thirukkadaiyur is well known for this ritual since it is associated with the legend of Markandeya.

I had first visited this temple when I was around 8 and there after whenever I happen to go to Tamil Nadu I make a point to visit the temple.
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ceremonies with cultural values should not be made fun of.
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Originally Posted by Nick-H View Post The couple in the second pic look more like they have been doing the 80-eth birthday celebration!
They do indeed! Maybe one can have the remarriage ceremonies anytime after turning 60.

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Originally Posted by Prakaant View Post Isn't it a way of extracting money by exploiting emotions...
May be, but to me, it seems to be a nice gesture. But then isnt almost every other thing in the world an attempt to exploit the senses, in different ways. Good. Bad. Grey.

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Originally Posted by aarosh View Post Shastiapthapoorthi (60th birthday), Bhimaradha shanthi (70th birthday), Sadabishegam (80th birthday) is a common practice among Tamilians. Thirukkadaiyur is well known for this ritual since it is associated with the legend of Markandeya.

I had first visited this temple when I was around 8 and there after whenever I happen to go to Tamil Nadu I make a point to visit the temple.
I have never been here, but would love to visit. True, shastiapthapoorthi and sadabishegam are indeed celebrated evn in other places. I suppose celebrating at Thirukkadaiyur makes it even more special owing to the legend of Markandeya.
But I was not aware of longevity in marriage being celebrated in a ritualistic way.

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Originally Posted by baba420 View Post ceremonies with cultural values should not be made fun of.
Nothing is being made fun of. On the contrary, renewal of marriage vows seems a very nice and loving gesture to me.
If we do not constantly explore the cultural ethos, we may at times miss some pearls. I find this ritual of interest, and of value.

Off the topic, personally, I do not believe there is anything in the world which cannot be laughed about.
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Originally Posted by baba420 View Post ceremonies with cultural values should not be made fun of.
Let me clarify my position. I do value all customs and respect all religion...

After reading the report, I came to understand it is a new practice there...

With no intention to offend anybody, let me say...

If you check minutely you'll find, there are plenty of customs present today just to benefit the pandits and traders (businessmen)...

... One like eating jalebi and fafra in Gujarat on Diwali... It was started few years ago by a shop which used to sell jalebi and fafra... There are plenty of this type of marketing in the name of custom...
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I could not help but notice a decidedly commercial aspect to the whole thing --- but, from Christmas to Divali, this seems to be the order of the day. As each festival comes around it is marked by the additional full-page newspaper ads for silk, gold, or whatever is "appropriate" at the time. Commerce may or may not have had anything to do with the foundation of these things, but it certainly has a lot to do with their interpretation and perpetuation.

It's the custom to throw out old things and buy new... How very convenient. For the sellers of the new things!

My 60th was marked by a concert. I had not thought of it as having anything to do with marriage, but the blessing and presents given to my wife and I, by the senior artist who sang for us, are as valued as the music.
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Interesting, from the Wikipedia about Sashtiaapdapoorthi posted here :
It marks completion of half years of ones total lifetime as in Hinduism, it is considered 120 years as life span of a human being.
From the the Bible, Genesis chapter 6 verse 3:
And the LORD said, My spirit shall not always strive with man, for that he also is flesh: yet his days shall be an hundred and twenty years.
- King James Bible "Authorized Version", Cambridge Edition
Seems we have something in common with Hinduism but thank goodness don't have to spend a fortune on a second marriage to my dear wife .
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Originally Posted by Nick-H View Post My 60th was marked by a concert. I had not thought of it as having anything to do with marriage, but the blessing and presents given to my wife and I, by the senior artist who sang for us, are as valued as the music.
Wow. This is one of the most beautiful birthday gifts that I have heard of.
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Originally Posted by Prakaant View Post If you check minutely you'll find, there are plenty of customs present today just to benefit the pandits and traders (businessmen).
...There are plenty of this type of marketing in the name of custom...
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...Commerce may or may not have had anything to do with the foundation of these things, but it certainly has a lot to do with their interpretation and perpetuation.
Even I hate crass commercialization. And rituals and functions that break the back of the household, if only they have to bear the whole expenses of some social event.
There is another side o the story. A friend of mine used to say that the festivals in India and the marriages are the actual wheels of the Indian economy. It seems these events help in creation of liquidity in the market, and money for people belonging to all the classes of the society, which is far better than a few hoarding their money. For example, we hear criticism about the money spent in Bengal during the Puja. But the extend to which Puja vitalize the Bengal economy is just immense, a whole set of people who are completely dependent on such activities.
So let those with a good disposable income splurge.
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Originally Posted by ashyashwin View Post Wow. This is one of the most beautiful birthday gifts that I have heard of.
We sponsored the concert --- but that was merely facilitation, the help of the lady who runs the sabha, and the performance of the artists was far beyond commercial consideration. It was the best birthday I have had for 60 years
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And no cake was involved, i presume. Zoo, and concert, Nick-h. You are really making the animal spirits happy.

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It's the custom to throw out old things and buy new.
to reduce wastage, exchange offers were born. Give us the junk you are bored with, and go home with new junk.
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No cake, as such, was involved, but small boxes of sweets were distributed.

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