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#16 Sep 26th, 2005, 00:12
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Congratulations!

Nick,

I registered my marriage here in April and did the 30 days things. I had my birth certificate, passport etc but didn't have to produce it, I just had to fill in a form with a permanent address on it, they were not interested in me at all and asked no questions.

The form was typed up by a nearby shop and then we waited the month.

Then it was a bit more tricky, my husband was grilled and so was I by the Registrar. Satisfied he begrudglingly allowed us to sign the register.

And then we had a party. It's not a place to hold a celebration like you might in front of registry office in UK, it's all a bit official and in my case, a very unattractive building.

We did the religious thing entirely separately (Muslim) and the party (Western) was separate again. Three celebrations in one!!

Really, I wouldn't stress too much about the paperwork, the fun starts afterwards or before or whenever you choose really

Enjoy being together
#17 Sep 26th, 2005, 00:45
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Originally Posted by katyrafi Really, I wouldn't stress too much about the paperwork, the fun starts afterwards or before or whenever you choose really
Sorry Katy, I would have to differ on this. As Nick is already in UK, it is best that he prepares for the stuff the guys have already asked for. I would presume corruption as well as frauds to be higher in downtown chennai, suburban kerala.

Nick - did you go to the registrar office and check before leaving India. It would be a good if your fiancee' relatives or someone heads to the concerned registrar office for a dip stick...
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#18 Sep 26th, 2005, 01:10
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I'm somewhat overcome by the wonderful response Thanks again

This is the information as relayed by my lady from talking to Chennai register office on the phone:

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FOR YOU THEY NEED :

1. " Never Married " Certificate from your country
2. Residence Proof - I think u can present ur mom's for UK and the lease
papers for chennai, wat is in ur presnt passport as
residence?
3. Birth Proof I think ur passport wl speak.
4. A Clearance Certificate from the Local Police.-Abhiramapuram police shud
giive i think

FOR ME

1. Residence Proof _ I think I wl show my passport
2. Age Proof
3, Divorce certificate or death certificate if already married person

You must come in person and then file a notice, which will be in their office for 30 days on the botice board, and if there is no objection, then the marraige will be registered... and they will issue the certificate. So Once you come, firstly, we must approach the local police for clearance certificate and then go and file the notice.

Then after 30 days only, we can go again to register our wedding.
Oh, and I'll make a proper 'announcement' complete with picture when she has 'gone publc'; as it were, her end.

ps... BigZero and attendees at the last Chennai Meet have met her already.
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Elaborate, I think my potential inlaws just employed some consideration..
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Best wishes, Nick! What great news!
#21 Sep 26th, 2005, 05:52
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Originally Posted by edwardseco Elaborate, I think my potential inlaws just employed some consideration..
You too! I have missed a lot being away from IM


Many congratulations from me as well You are about to join the unofficial, person with Indian Inlaws (PIL) group here on IM & around the world!

I've been away from the forum awhile & I come back & see your happy news, but it makes me wonder if I'm really married!

We just had a Hindu ceremony & I do have a marriage certificate from some office in Mumbai, but I didn't do any of that stuff you are being put thru. Perhaps because we only had a religious ceremony?

All best wishes and happiness, hope you find the musicians you are looking for!
#22 Sep 26th, 2005, 07:20
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Congratulations Nick, have a wonderful life together
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CONGRATULATIONS!
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#24 Sep 26th, 2005, 10:44
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Congrats Nick-h. Do tell us the "Story"!
#25 Sep 26th, 2005, 10:48
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Congratulations Nick, I am so happy for you fellow Indiamiker!!!

And to another adopted Chennaite (like myself)...I wish you...

Uungalukum ungal manaivikum ennudaiya thirumana nall vazhthukal(valthukal)


Best wishes!

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#26 Sep 26th, 2005, 11:04
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Nick,

The Never Married certificate is requested as deterrent against "foreigner" who come to india and marry women, even though they gavhave bneen married before. Its rampant in some parts of india, mainly with tourists from the middle east. If you have something similar to Notary in the UK, you can sign a statement and have them assert that it was signed before them .The offcial seal and signature, may please the indian officials.

The Thavil and Nadaswaram players can be hored for your reception or if you have a non-denominational ceremony. It will be diffficult to have them as part of a church ceremony. But, do keep in mind that they are LOUD. so, plan accordingly.

CONGRATS!

For those who asked:
Nadaswaram



Thavil
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#27 Sep 26th, 2005, 12:22
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Nick,

Congratulations.

I hope u r inviting us for the Kalyana Saapad.
#28 Sep 26th, 2005, 13:48
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What if youre not in India for 30 days? can you expedite the process? We will be there only 27 and thinking of getting married there. Is it possible?
#29 Sep 26th, 2005, 14:31
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Congratualtions and best wishes to you and your bride-to-be!


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Originally Posted by Nick-H Maybe Mike will certify that I couldn't possible be married, or I wouldn't be spending so much time on this site!
I hope this doesn't mean we won't be seeing as much of you around here after the happy day! Nah ... if she's been putting up with your IM addiction for this long, she knows what she's getting into ...
#30 Sep 26th, 2005, 14:38
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Oh! Yet more wonderful wishes!!! IM is such a good place to be Thank you all!

DocGirl, my Tamil still doesn't extend beyond dog, cat, squirell and fly oh, and rat... but I'm sure I should say thanks!

DD I thought I'd been telling this story ever since I joined IM, during those days sitting here in London over my PC wading through Matrimonial adds. I've had two girlfriends in India found through the adds and it looks like second-time lucky!

I think I will get something signed and sealed by a solicitor. I need to see one about making a will (...as I now have 'responsibilities' ) so it can be done at the same time

This still isn't really an anouncement! She is still telling people slowly, and some of her workmates etc still don't know (although I think they must have had suspicions when she came away to London for two months!). It's the Indian prejudice thing! Not because I'm white, oh no, nothing so simple, although her church people may object to my not being Christian --- but because she is marrying again before her adult daughter is married! Oh the strange ways of India

No living In-laws, I'm afraid: but a grown-up son and daughter instead! I guess meeting them the first time was even more scary than in-laws would have been!

There isn't a problem with my being in India for less than 30 days: I'm going to live there! which reminds me, I'd better book the ticket while BA's special offer is still on...

crvlvr, your nadaswaram pic didn't come out... yes, I know well how loud they are; it will be fine on top of my roof. I mean to have a proper concert, an hour or two of music including requests. It'll be one day in Chennai when I hope it doesn't rain!

And yes, she knows that IM will be there (and she has been to two meetups, Chennai and Penzance). She says I have two more girlfriends in my flat: my AirCon machine and my PC!

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