How to find a wife in India?

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#1 Feb 13th, 2019, 06:12
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Hi everyone!

I'm European guy with no Indian origin and I have a plan to find some decent lady in India and bring her to my home in Europe. I've been learning Telugu language since last year but my knowledge about Indian culture is still limited, thus the final decision hasn't been made yet and I haven't begun searching so far. I try to collect as much information as I can, but I haven't found a book referred particularly to my plans. There are some visa-related threads, but there is no any about looking for a wife in Bharat Republic. I decided to ask some questions here as this is the place where there are many people with large experiences in India. Here are my questions I would like to ask:

How big is the difficulty scale of my aim? Is it possible to realize? I suppose it may be hard. I know that there is a caste system in India and social taboo for not marrying foreigners, however, I also know that India is a giant and diversed country and such marriages sometimes happen, but I'm not sure in which circumstances that can be done.

Due to my work in my country, I can spend only several weeks annually in India, therefore I need to think "strategically" how to choose a best method. Shall I use matrimonial websites or maybe much better is to visit some marriage agency in India? Is there any marriage agency specialised in connecting Indians with non-Indian foreigners? How to find it?

Which region and which social groups in India are more tolerant for the intercultural marriages? Persons with no caste identity? Widows? Middle class people from big cities? Working class people? Yes, it depends mostly on particular person and family, but I need to identify the social groups in which the probability of being rejected due to my non-Indian origin is relatively lower.

How about Indian Christians? If I limit my "seeking activities" to Indian Christian community, will this increase my chances significantly due to the same religion? I'm christian too. I don't mind Hindu religion, but I wonder if Hindu parents would mind me, as non-Hindu person?

As I mentioned above, I learn Telugu, but if I meet a lady who speaks other Indian language, I will change my learning to the language of her. Is it true, that foreigner, who speaks one of the Indian languages, is treated almost like a family member by Indians?


Thank you for any advice and God bless you!
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This is not related to your query, but the first question that comes to mind is ... why does she have to be Indian? 

And I'm guessing you've tried the obvious matrimony related websites already? You asked if they are a good idea, so perhaps you haven't. 

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Apply in triplicate and submit for stamping in counter 3 !

But seriously ! You are trolling, right ? Have you tried -
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#4 Feb 13th, 2019, 09:27
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If you have no problem tying a knot with an old lady, then I will immediately start the process of sex change. And yes, you start learning Hindi...Europe, here I come.
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#5 Feb 13th, 2019, 10:32
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Basically spend time in India. Matchmakers are everywhere. I was the victim of one such, an Ozzie friend. Go to clubs, activities and don't rush. The hazards are there for the unwary. Besides which you don't want to be stuck with an incompatible mate. Worst comes to worst put an ad in the newspaper there and correspond and utilize an Indian private detective. They should do the same for you...
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Originally Posted by L.V. View Post Hi everyone!

I'm European guy with no Indian origin and I have a plan to find some decent lady in India and bring her to my home in Europe. I've been learning Telugu language since last year but my knowledge about Indian culture is still limited, thus the final decision hasn't been made yet and I haven't begun searching so far. I try to collect as much information as I can, but I haven't found a book referred particularly to my plans. There are some visa-related threads, but there is no any about looking for a wife in Bharat Republic. I decided to ask some questions here as this is the place where there are many people with large experiences in India. Here are my questions I would like to ask:

How big is the difficulty scale of my aim? Is it possible to realize? I suppose it may be hard. I know that there is a caste system in India and social taboo for not marrying foreigners, however, I also know that India is a giant and diversed country and such marriages sometimes happen, but I'm not sure in which circumstances that can be done.

Due to my work in my country, I can spend only several weeks annually in India, therefore I need to think "strategically" how to choose a best method. Shall I use matrimonial websites or maybe much better is to visit some marriage agency in India? Is there any marriage agency specialised in connecting Indians with non-Indian foreigners? How to find it?

Which region and which social groups in India are more tolerant for the intercultural marriages? Persons with no caste identity? Widows? Middle class people from big cities? Working class people? Yes, it depends mostly on particular person and family, but I need to identify the social groups in which the probability of being rejected due to my non-Indian origin is relatively lower.

How about Indian Christians? If I limit my "seeking activities" to Indian Christian community, will this increase my chances significantly due to the same religion? I'm christian too. I don't mind Hindu religion, but I wonder if Hindu parents would mind me, as non-Hindu person?

As I mentioned above, I learn Telugu, but if I meet a lady who speaks other Indian language, I will change my learning to the language of her. Is it true, that foreigner, who speaks one of the Indian languages, is treated almost like a family member by Indians?


Thank you for any advice and God bless you!
This might be of some help:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_R._Courtney

https://www.amazon.com/American-Hyde.../dp/1893644057
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How to find a wife in India?

Haha, the keyword is matrimonials.

People may laugh at you. I'm not going to because, I suppose, it's what I did. Fourteen years ago, and here I still am.

But you had better ask yourself why, because... Well, of it is just having a thing about brown skin and black hair you probably don't need to look outside your own town.

Have fun. And don't settle for less than a bike, a cow, and a colour TV.
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More about Telugu-speaking Christians: https://www.amazon.com/Indian-Balm-T.../dp/1845110854

Though, unlike David Courtney, Paul Hyland didn't end up marrying one.
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How to find a wife in India?

Tell us a bit more about yourself. Your age, employment and interests.
Where in EU do you live.
Perspective brides will need all the information you can provide.
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How to find a wife in India?

Hmmm, you wouldn't be starting an online matchmaking business there, would you? actually I've always though that could be good for IM.

L.V. ...

Indian Christians... Altogether too much Christian. I know: I married one. Convert and marry a Hindu. A Much more fun religion!

And Telugu? You picked the right language for beauty!

... My prejudices, both for and against. Sorry. So throw things at me!

To answer one of your principle questions. Yes, what you are thinking about its perfectly doable. Have you actually been to India much? When I did it I was already up to my ankles in Indian culture and families. At the time, of course, I thought I was at least waist-deep. Oh no... Maybe get there soon. The only Indian thing I've ever been chest deep in is sewage. Chennai floods 2015.

And some of my friends call me an honorary Mylapore Mama (Brahmin)!

Anyway... If you are not toe-deep already, do that first.

And, if you are just trolling, you're doing a good job. We love a good troll!
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And some of my friends call me an honorary Mylapore Mama (Brahmin)!
isn't "Maman" maternal uncle/father-in-law (cross-cousin marriages!). I thought Brahmins were "Papan". Or is that term considered derogatory?
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mama/maami --- uncle/auntie.

A Myalapore Maami/Mama might imply a bit of making fun of an old-fashioned stereotype. The missing M in Mylapore Maami would be Madisar! Mama and Maami are used among people I know as respectful title for elders.

Actually, I was checking with Mrs N, a while back: is this a just-Brahmin thing? She said yes, others would say auntie/uncle. Maybe it's a TamBram thing.

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Originally Posted by Nick-H View Post mama/maami --- uncle/auntie.

A Myalapore Maami/Mama might imply a bit of making fun of an old-fashioned stereotype. The missing M in Mylapore Maami would be Madisar! Mama and Maami are used among people I know as respectful title for elders.

Actually, I was checking with Mrs N, a while back: is this a just-Brahmin thing? She said yes, others would say auntie/uncle. Maybe it's a TamBram thing.

Further comment may come from one of our actual TBs.

Mama can be a rude word in malayalam but is also used to describe an Uncle .

Possibly a slang term
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Alright, everyone. Back to helping LV find a wife. 

I've been looking for a way to monetize the traffic around here. Let's see if matchmaking is the answer. 

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