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I am just back from another Indian forum (in russian).
I read there that it is legal in India to have more then one wife. Is it true? Or the person confused something?
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For Muslim community it is legally allowed to have more than one wife.

It is not rare to come across with cases in other communities where people have more than one wives. But only one marriage is legally valid.

Even after divorce you can’t get married immediately. There is a ‘cooling period’ of I think 6 months. The time was legally enforced for people to have a mind change and a possible reunion.
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in states like arunachal pradesh and some tribal communities in india ,they have more than one wife...
also in toda communities it was common for one woman to more than two or three husbands...
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Hey, I find it people struggling even with one…
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If you thought marriage was tough business, well divorce is still tougher. !!!

You need to approach the court, who sends you for counselling, and then court listens to the case if counselling fails. Then couple have to go for a 6 month cooling period followed by another set of hearings. Altoghether a cool 8-12 months by the minimum. (unless another court order is received for voiding the 6 month period)

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they probably haven't mastered the art...
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You are allowed to have more than one wife if your personal law (Hindu personal law doesn't, Muslim personal law does, some tribal personal laws do) allows it. There is no common civil law in India. Each community has its own civil law.
An interesting twist on this seems to be that Government servants (at least Central Government ones) are forbidden to have more than one spouse even if their personal law allows it. They can be fired for it.
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This remained me of a ‘fight’ at one of the homes in our neighborhood. The divorce law gives special consideration in the divorce cases involving impotency or infertility. This couple married for about four years didn’t have a child. They tried all kinds of treatments and pujas (hanging small craddle at some krishna temple) and all.

And frustration led to name-calling and accusing each others for the ‘problem’. And they approached court for a divorce. After some time the court granted the divorce order. Later they both got married to someone else in our nearby area itself. And both had children! People here were wondering what ‘exactly’ their problem was!!. It has been a bit topic here in the gossip circle for quite some time
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not having sex i guess was their problem
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This couple married for about four years didn’t have a child. They tried all kinds of treatments and pujas (hanging small craddle at some krishna temple) and all.

This brings another question I have for same time.
Ok, couple doesn't have children, I also know one like this in Delhi, but why not to adopt a child? Or in India it is only one's own child or not at all?
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It depends. Adoption is a major option to many childless couples. Some people don’t like it. And it is a socially accepted norm though very cumbersome with the legal paperwork and all. The people are to go for some parenting training and all as one of the many formalities.

Some people are adamant. They just wanted to prove a point. “The problem is with YOU” and “I’m suffering because of it” and led to all sorts of nonsense.

Hash, even that point also came (told) in public here . It was nasty. The gossipmongers here had a juicy topic.
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not having sex i guess was their problem
you think it is a joke but that is what happened to a couple here in Germany. they went to see a doctor about their childless-ness who started by asking: How is your sex life?

they said: WAS?

turned out they have never had sex in several years of blissful marriage.
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Adoption is not very popular in India (which explains the large number of Indian children being adopted overseas). Even when somebody decides to adopt, they usually adopt a child from within the extended family. Muslim personal law doesn't allow adoption I think, only wardship or guardianship. This creates complications in inheritance (one has to write a will; property does not automatically go the the ward).
There was a recent push during the BJP government to enact a uniform adoption code (allowing everybody to adopt and setting uniform rules), but this did not go through in the face of serious opposition from communities that wanted to keep their personal laws (and from people who predicted that this was the harbinger of the Uniform Civil Code: a big taboo word in Indian politics).
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they went to see a doctor about their childless-ness who started by asking: How is your sex life?

What did they expect the doctor to do ?

In the case I explained even a kid my neighourhood knew when they had last and all. They shouted all these in public as both these people wanted to 'prove' to the public that they were both normal. It was a live soap serial.
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It’s more or less the same among the Muslim community here also, that is hahing only single wife though leagaly possible to marry more. And it is not so uncommon to see men with more that one wives but not a usually practiced custom.

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