Mixed Wedding Ceremonies and receptions

#1 Apr 19th, 2008, 20:40
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Yet another wedding thread.

To those of you who have had, or have been to a mixed wedding ceremony ( Christian western and Hindu), I am curiosu to know exactly how the two cultures and tradtions were integrated. This isn't a question about the legal aspect, but more about the religious and simply traditional aspect.

For example: Did the bride walk up the aisle with her father or did the groom and his family dance the bharat? Did the couple exchange rings and say "I do" then steal a sneaky kiss? Did they walk around the fire? Did they do all of these on seperate occassions or were they mingled into one ceremony?

Did the couple have a 'first dance'? or was it more like a bollwood group dance?

I saw a wonderful video on you tube (I know it's not the same thread) of a Jew who wed an indian and they were both Americans. Great first dance!

So, what were the mixed weddings you've been to like?

#2 Apr 19th, 2008, 20:54
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We had a mixed-religion marriage but instead of integrating the two together, we did a full-on Indian wedding, and then a full-on Christian wedding. Coming from the non-Hindu half, I can tell you that hiring an English-speaking pandit to translate from Sanskrit was a wonderful idea and actually meant that I found the Hindu ceremony much more meaningful than the Christian ceremony. After both marriage ceremonies, we had a traditional western-style reception/dance/dinner, complete with a western-style wedding cake. People thought I was nuts for saving & freezing the top layer (and consuming a year later). They were even more surprised that it still tasted really good!
#3 Apr 19th, 2008, 20:55
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What a great question!

A friend of mine (Hindu) is maried to a Christian and although I wasn't at the wedding i have heard a lot about it. They had 2 distinct and traditional ceremonies but on the same day. It was a huge organisational feat but they wanted to be able to celebrate their anniversary on one day. What a wardrobe my friend had - and a very special day too. Almost a bollywood production in its own right!
#4 Apr 19th, 2008, 21:31
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hehe, it IS an unusual tradition Piper, but a very nice one... but how did you get a proper rich fruit cake with royal icing!?!
Cool blue: it must have been fun for your friend too, so many dresses but can she wear any of them for future occasions or are they all one day only ones?

did they have a first dance? I'm having fun watching wedding dances on you tube.... I think I can sent the party season around the corner!
#5 Apr 19th, 2008, 23:37
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I think it would be tough to honor both religions properly in one ceremony. Most people I know make them two separate events, either on the same day or over 2 days.

My own wedding was a South Indian Brahmin one. Since we live in the USA, we added a ring exchange but did this during the lunch and reception which followed the marriage ceremony. My father also escorted me to the mandap (marriage platform). But those things are more cultural than religious.
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#6 Apr 30th, 2008, 16:57
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I have attended so many 'mixed' marriages of friends and relatives over the years encompassing almost all religions except Judaism, and that is probably because there are so few marriagable age youngsters of that faith left in India.

All but one of the weddings were two separate ceremonies followed by an evening reception, and preceded in more recent times by the increasingly popular sangeeth / mehendhi functions.

In India as in many other parts of the world, marriages are between families, not just individuals, so having separate ceremonies permits the respective extended families feel that their customs and cultures have received due respect. Several couples of mixed faith, especially in urban areas nowadays opt for registered marriages followed by a reception.

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