Indian Overseas Marriage

#1 Oct 13th, 2012, 22:48
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Hi... I'm married in Singapore to an Indian from Tamil Nadu. Recently I found out that my husband re-married again to an Indian girl while he is still married to me. I ask him to divorce me but seems like he does'nt want. I ask him to file divorce or else I will file bigamy case againts him. But he blackmail me, He said if I will complain againts him he will commit suicide. Is my marriage in Singapore recognize in India? Is my husband marriage in India legal? Please help me. Thanks.
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If you want a divorce why would you care if he commits suicide. In the same spot I would offer to help the lousy blighter cut his throat. Sorry to say this bigamous scenario happens often. Your marriage, at least if registered, would be legal in India. However, I have no Indian legal training and would defer to someone who always impresses me, NY or for that matter anyone else here. I believe its a great claim for a bigamy charge. Good luck in the courts however. I have seen some deep tragedies there..
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Marriages are generally recognised all over the world.

He can't divorce you, because you didn't do anything wrong. You should divorce him --- and, as Edwardseco suggests, you could tell him to stick his blackmail where it hurts, because, sure, widow or divorce, whatever. But reporting him for bigamy, even if he is charged and prosecuted, still leaves you married to him: it would be subsequent marriages that would be void.

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He can't divorce you...
Oh, wait... what religion are you? Do you belong to one of those groups where, whatever she does, the woman is not recognised as free unless the man says so?

Religion does so complicate life

All the best, anyway. certainly souds like you are better off without him. Your loss is his new wife's ...loss.
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I am a Christian Catholic. We do our marriage under the Registry of Marriage in Singapore. His family knows about me. I am better because I give up a lot of things, adjust to his culture and beliefs from clothing, food etc. I plan to settle in India for good. According to him his family force him to married the indian girl because of dowry. Its an insult because the girl is my opposite appearance which I know my husband dont like it, he is very concious with it comes to looks.
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Doesn't matter, the crux of the matter is you have a legal, perhaps enforcible marriage. Also, the husband was not "forced" if he over the age of consent. File the bigamy charge. Gads, this is why the private detective business is booming in India, so many heartless scammers..
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Do you have any proof of his indian marriage? If yes, you can file a case right now. Else start collecting them- marriage invitation cards, photos, marriage registration docs, passport if it has spouse name or anything that supports that he married while being married to you. Bigami is illegal except when the religion allows it. Dont get cowed down an the blackmail. Its just to scare you. Its him that needs to an scared.
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ehnah, I know a little more about such situations than you might expect --- except, in the instance that I know, the guy has the spine, courage, and love for his wife to stand against his family, even if he has to live with his heartbreak of separation from them.

I sympathise.
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My husband is a Hindu.According to my reseach,under the Hindu Marriage Act and Singapore & Indian Penal Code bigamy is a criminal case and its punishable for 7 years imprisonment + fine. His marriage in India is considered VOID. I found out his illegal marriage through his email account, I have the invitation letter as a proof and the indian girl name/ photo. I make a letter for him to sign (authorization to re-married) which I can use as a strong evidence againts him. I want to report that his marriage is void but I don't know which government agency in India is concern. And also I am planning to hire private detective in india but I don't know who I can trust.
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Originally Posted by ehnah View Post I don't know who I can trust.
File an FIR in the jurisdiction of the town/city where he lives, and also a complaint with the Indian Embassy in Singapore (if he is an Indian citizen) or with the local police if he is a Singaporean citizen.

There must be an NGO in India that handles women issues. Contact them.
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If he lives in a large city, it will have a Women's Police station. Else many districts now have them. If nothing else, the local Police station where he/his family currently lives. Going thru an NGO/lawyer may be better.
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The first thing you need is an NGO/lawyer.
We can tell you general facts but the nitty gritties of your case(exactly where and how you should file) can be dealt with only by a lawyer.

Based on the fact that he has committed bigamy, you can also get a divorce from him - atleast it is possible under Hindu and special marriage acts in India - I dont know about the law under which you got married in singapore.

Personal opinion - get rid of the looser as soon as possible. In many cases the boy(or the girl) is as complicit in dowry as the greedy parents.
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Thank you for all the advice you shared I appreciate it. I already start filling the case and I am a bit worried what may be the outcome. I am going to report my husband void marriage to his hometown and file the bigamy case in Singapore. He got no place to hide. (I talk to him and again he blackmail me but I said if he will past away its my luck I can re-married without filling divorce. And its no longer my lost its his family and fake wife lost.
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(I talk to him and again he blackmail me but I said if he will past away its my luck I can re-married without filling divorce.
Good for you! Stick up for yourself.

But I'm sorry it had to happen.
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Your husband is a coward and has no backbone. If what he says is true then why he could not say no to his own family? If he commits suicide then so be it. After all, he is just paying for his own mistakes. I think he is a fool to give this type of reasoning and think it will work. Good riddance, I say.

You are in a position where you cannot lose. I doubt that coward like him can commit a suicide because he was presented with plenty of opportunities already; before he married the second time. All he wants is have his cake and eat it too. If you let this continue, he and his new wife will come to Singapore and live off your income.

I think you changed for him too much too soon to let him believe that he can get off the hook by marrying the second time. I think he will keep on pushing the envelop under the aegis of love for you. Your best strategy is to cut off your losses for your accidental mistake and trusting an idiot. Break this thing off ASAP, stop taking his calls and get psychological therapy for yourself (if needed) and move on.

Let his new wife and him pay for his parent's greed and his own cowardice. Besides what kind of parents let his own son marry again knowing that he is already married. Seem like his whole family is weird.

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