Advice re sick friend in Delhi, finding jobs etc?

cute_witch

Hi everybody,
I m from Vietnam, and now i m working in Shenzhen-China for a Technology Group. after 1 graduated-year, i m shock abt work. now i want to work in another country to find my destiny again.
and i have a special friend in New Delhi. we have been friend for 2 years through internet. and we have never met with each other in real. but now he has cancer and in bad condition. so i want to go to India to work for 3 months to visit him and find my life's aim again.
i m learning abt the fact of india. but i know it is not enough. so Could u advise me : what should i know abt india and work in india; what job should i apply for in india and how?
i m female, 23 years old and my major is business administration.
thanksssssss a million !

skk

I'm surprised I'm the first to respond - I'm a guy and you should wait till some women respond before making up your mind.

IMO, this has all the characteristics of a scam....If you are lucky, all he wants to do is to dump you, so the cancer will progress to its inevitable conclusion. If you are unlucky there will be monetary considerations or more involved. I've seen this crap before several times.

Of course I could be wrong. But do try and get some real evidence for what you've been told.

This isn't exactly a fact about India - its something that happens in internet, virtual dating.

-skk

shashank.aggarwal

I tend to agree with SKK over here. Be cautious.

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puchoo

Good advise from SKK..!

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Aishah

Mod Note: I have changed your title so people know what your thread is about.
I'm afraid cutewitch I have to agree with all the male posters above - I would be extremely suspicious about this and super-careful. Come to India by all means if you can afford it and check out the situation, but my advice would be that you be very alert and take care.
As for getting a job here - that's out of my field but I have a feeling it is not easy. You have, as far as I know, to be able to prove you are in a job no other Indian can do.

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capt_mahajan

Agree with everybody.

If you do come to India, then, at some stage, money or your safety may become an issue.

Not will, may.

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Nick-H

Oh dear, what to do?

Everything that has bee said is true. Just as true as the fact that I met my wife on the internet --- although we met up in real life within days of meeting online, and she had had experience of men on line that turned out not to be what they said they were.

The thought of a sick friend pulls at the heart strings. Could someone have spent two years setting it up, if this is a scam? My heart wants to believe no; my head says yes, it is possible. I also know that a serious illness, in India, is something that can be very expensive.

Now, looking on the positive side... If a scam was involved, I would expect requests for money to have been made: a visit would hardly serve the purpose of an unreal illness (although there was a case in UK a couple of years ago where a woman scammed colleagues and people who knew her well with such a story). A visit would be more likely to reveal the truth.

So, if your friend is happy to be visited, it leads me to believe that you have a friend.

A genuine friend in India with a serious illness could still result in money becoming an issue, though.

TheFoolOnTheHill

( am staying well away from this thread! Although I had a lot I wanted to tell the OP when I read it )

Cute Witch - all the best. I hope things work out well for you. Be aware and be careful.

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nomad

i am not sure. but yeah, you should be aware of these internet scams.

CW, do you talk to him on phone, skype etc or its just emails, chat?

these days google is the best source of information. search for his name, if its not very common name, you should get decent information on web.
like this is what i found about shashank in less than a minute.

"Shashank Aggarwal. Human Resources Consultant and Contractor."

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puchoo

Thats along the lines of what i was thinking...plus 2 years i a very long time....dont expect a scammer to have that kind of patience...but then again i have heard of people going to visit and then getting accosted once they land and money and valuables being taken away...

Cayle

I'll only add to the chorus of "be careful". People can easily play a role on the internet and I've seen it many times.

The individual in the linked article fooled many people into believing that he/she was someone completely different and then the persona was killed off when they were sick of the charade. It was not a scam. The person never asked for money or anything.

http://dir.salon.com/story/tech/feat...d_miss_norway/

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Nick-H

Your well-known IndiaMike Top Poster is actually quite shy and retiring in 'real' life. Seriously!

I have also (as I spent a couple of years doing matrimonial sites before I met Mrs N) experienced how easy it is to get too close too fast on the net.

Aishah

nomad - interesting re Googling name - but one thing is not definite - how do you know this is the same one as another with same name? I googled my name a couple of months ago - I found it on the second page of many others with an identical name!

karuna

I think my advice, assuming you are going to do this no matter what, and have no other friends in India, would be this: stay in a pre-arranged hotel at least for the first week. Don't tell your friend where that is. Pre-book a car and driver from a reputable company for the first week or so.

Arrange to meet your friend somewhere public (cafe, restaurant) and ask your driver to come with you so you are not alone. He could maintain a discreet presence if you wish. You then have some back up if things go wrong as well as a convenient escape route. Essentially you need someone who always knows where you are and will be concerned if you do not show up, as well as a quick way to get out if things turn ugly- a good, reliable driver is perfect for this in the absence of friends.

Sorry, no help on getting work- more concerned with your safety!

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puchoo

Excellent.... dont let them pick u up , airport or from any other place, or chauffeur you around.

Infact might not be a bad idea being a bit vague of your arrival timings as well..