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#1 Jun 12th, 2014, 22:54
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Ok so I've been in India for about 7 weeks now and thought that I was pretty good at determining a scam...BUT (and here's the embarrassing thing) I've just found out that I have fallen for the most stereotypical con in the book.

I met my tuk tuk driver in Jaipur within the first 7 days of being in India. We had a brief 3 day romance and then I continued on with my friend to Nepal. During this three days, he never asked me for money, but gave me insight into his difficult life and how he owed one person 6000RP and another person 25000RP for when he borrow money last off season to send to his family (I also visited in off season).
So I told him I'd give him the 6000RP and that I couldn't prove if He was telling the truth or not but I felt that my conscience couldn't deal with not giving him the money. And if he was lying, let bad Karma strike him down. He accepted and thanked me and that was that.

He then proceeded to spend the remainder of my trip in India and my trip in Nepal to convince me to come back and see him in Jaipur. He also conveniently forgot to give me a package of textiles that I had bought and so it was easier for me to return to jaipur to get it and see him also.

Long story short: he goes into hiding just as I'm about to get back to Jaipur as the people he owes 25000RP are after him. I reluctantly agree to loan it to him (to get him out of trouble). I spend weeks with him- in a semi relationship. He does everything in his power to make me live him (which never eventuates- thank god). I find messages on his facebook from girls that he is in current communication with (other tourists). I break up with him, dump his stuff out of the hotel room and the next day tell him we can be friends and that is it. His friend tells me in private to please be careful. The tuk tuk driver has been lying the whole time. He didn't owe money, he isn't a poor village boy, his family lives in Jaipur and in fact his father owns a shop in Goa.

This all happened today.

So now I'm stuck on what to do. I can't tell driver that I know he con'd me, I will get his friend in trouble. But I would like to serve him a hot dish of revenge.

And I'm so glad I prepared myself for a possible scam at the start, because I easily could have fallen in love and bought this guy a tuk tuk or moved him to Australia, like he was subtlety hinting.

Any ideas?
Any similar stories?

I hope this post serves as a warning to all that visit india. Please do not fall for the guilt party. >>NEVER HAND OVER LARGE AMOUNTS OF MONEY<<
#2 Jun 12th, 2014, 23:06
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While I certainly empathize with your predicament, I think it is not the driver you should have words with, but yourself. India has always reminded me - in many ways, usually daily - to Let Go (that is actually one of my favorite things about India). Don't tangle your karma in this . . . Walk on . . .
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Unless it is to me!

Rs.31,000 is not the end of the world. Move on. At least you got something out of it. Some people get scammed for much larger sums and get no romance in return.
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The fact that I got scammed and a romance also, is not of great comfort, although I understand the sentiment.
Yes I agree, like I said- I had resigned myself to the fact that it could quite possibly be a scam and no I will not cry myself to sleep over it.
I would, however, enjoy some ideas on what people might do to teach him a lesson, or get him to admit his scamming ways. Again... If I cannot do this I will not cry myself to sleep over it.

I hope I have learnt from this experience and grow further. That is, after all, the reason for my trip.
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I'm wondering why you even still want to be friends with him?

If you want revenge you could always Facebook message his new tourist girlfriends and tell them he's a con artist tuk tuk tout and they shouldn't lend him cash. Then his scam will be revealed. Unless of course his new girlfriends are in love... people do crazy things in love...

Never lend anything you cant afford to lose, whether in India or not.
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My serious advice is to move on and very far away from him and his likes. Next time understand a person well before giving any money. In fact, whenever you do give money to a relative stranger, give it knowing that you will never get it back.
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I said I'd be friends before I was told he was a lying cheating bastard �� lol!
Good idea about facebook! I've already I friended him.. So I'll have to check if I can access his profile!!
Yes I agree, time to move on. I have to stay here until my money transfers through to me, so I have minimum 3 more days in jaipur.
Wish me luck!
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Try to get his email and facebook addresses (you should already have these), a devious mind can do amazing things with those once you get home.

Other than that, DON'T put yourself in any danger, get the hell out of there quickly without giving him the slightest idea that you know what's happened, if you see him and he hints at more money, tell him you've no accessable money and that you'll send him some when you get home, don't give him any grounds for suspicion.
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Also see if he's on trip advisor or other such websites, but do all that when you get home.
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If you concentrate on revenge on and on then you are still in his mindspace. As others have suggested, LET GO. Life is too short and there are so many wonderful people and things to experience in this life for it to be wasted on revenge against low-life.
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Originally Posted by Carabelle View Post I hope I have learnt from this experience and grow further. That is, after all, the reason for my trip.
Like they said above... Remembering that you have no idea how close you might have come to something far worse, and oh yes, revenge never tastes sweet!
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Totally agree with ViShVa: you should move on and don't look back, don't keep Any connection with that guy. He will get his boomerang back (i believe that everything bad you make to other people comes back to you in a double portion)
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All excellent advice! Thankyou
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Originally Posted by Sweet_Lana View Post He will get his boomerang back (i believe that everything bad you make to other people comes back to you in a double portion)
Like that bloke in Mad Max who tried to catch it and it took his fingers off... ho ho! But seriously though, if we go with this hypothesis SL, Carabelle must have previously done something a bit bad in order for, uuh, fate, to have dealt her this Jaipur schmuck. Imagine if she'd done something really bad. Anyways, Keeping one's legs crossed, so to speak, is a bit of the fatherly, but then again you have to consider the unbounded stupidity in play isn't it?
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No, she was simply naive (hehe, i was the same young+romantic+naive few years ago, i think if i had money i'd also give it to anyone that time )) Anyway, i'm against revenge, i prefer to say straight what i think about the person looking at his/her face and don't have any deal with him/her in future.
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