Sexual Harrassment

machadinha · Oct 26th, 2009, 22:29

Hm. Matter of perception again you'd think. Contrary to some reports here to that effect, I really don't see men in India peeing all over the place all the time. Maybe it's because I hail from the Sodom and Gomorrah known as Amsterdam, where it's not uncommon either (yet hardly seen all day long either). I certainly wouldn't interpret it to be anything of a come-on no, or otherwise of the person wishing to "expose" themselves; but then, hey, I'm a man, and as we all know we never get harassed by anyone.

I'd been thinking again by-the-by of, let's say, the stereotypical American living a pretty secluded life, transporting themselves mostly by car and such. Yes, it's a stereotype (and sorry to pick Americans again, the example just easily springs to mind. I'm not on about the nationality here, it could pertain to any number of peoples), but as stereotypes go, I hear even some "alternative" friends of mine there live that way, taking the car indeed to do some shopping three blocks down the road. In consequence, generally mingling with one's peers a lot of the time one presumes, and so on.

Now picture said stereotypical, let's say not American but pretty insulated modern human being then, and put them smack-bang in the middle of a "developing" country (or in The Bronx or an Amsterdam new town ghetto, for all I care), where all of life and humanity still takes place pretty much bam in-your-face. With physical closeness not to mention signs of everyday bodily functions and processes all around, yikes.

Yes, one can well imagine how the person will be left a little flabbergasted, maybe scared even; and perhaps being prone to interpreting much of it as being somehow related to, or directed at, that person in question, when in fact it mostly isn't.

So, yes, a lot of these little culture shocks will have everything to do with where we're coming from, won't they.

theyyamdancer · Oct 26th, 2009, 22:33

Yes. I agree wholeheartedly with this post, Mach. In fact, you don't have to go as far as India to be culturally shocked. There is just as much peeing in the street in Paris. Nobody cares. I was amazed when I first went there in the seventies. Nowadays I don't even notice it. So when you are accustomed to seeing something it does not strike you as odd.

Aupmanyav · Oct 26th, 2009, 22:44

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nick-H

Must have been Paint. Probably on Windows ME

!

Agree. Seems that the original size of the photo was smaller than this. The angle, as you said, also is not correct. Bad job. They could have left Madhuri alone.

Digital Drifter · Oct 26th, 2009, 23:33

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nick-H

Prize of the year for Bad Photoshopping? Just look at that Bindhi...Attachment 11623Nope, not the year... Worst photoshopped bindhi of the decade! They couldn't even be bothered to put it at the right angle...
.

You may want to reconsider the worst/decade part after this.

http://photoshopdisasters.blogspot.co m/

Nick-H · Oct 27th, 2009, 00:31

But... there's no bindis* there!

h? no h? and if h, where? Damn... where's that Indian English Dictionary for Firefox?

machadinha · Oct 27th, 2009, 00:33

LOL, Nick. Bhindi = okra (a vegetable, or fruit it seems in fact), or in Hindi anyway I think (hm, I find indications now it stems from the Tamil really. Often referred to as "lady's fingers" in India & perhaps some other countries.) Bindi = the forehead decoration

Nick-H · Oct 27th, 2009, 00:51

Bhindi Hindi Bindi ....

Mhendi Hendi Wendi ...

And other such travesties....

(Oh right... I'd forgotten about the veg. Despite having some growing in the garden)

alouise · Oct 28th, 2009, 19:23

Looks like I must be weird, Mach. I mean, if that stereotype of yours was intended for my contemplation then it was certainly not made to measure.

alouise · Oct 28th, 2009, 19:29

Quote:

Originally Posted by theyyamdancer

So when you are accustomed to seeing something it does not strike you as odd.

And seeing it just too many times can be revolting.

Nick-H · Oct 28th, 2009, 19:55

Revolting?

It's just a bit of flesh, for god's sake! What, and how much, we have to cover ourselves up, is a totally cultural thing anyway. There are many parts of the world (including some of India) where the women go bare chested: I'm not going to go there and accuse them of flashing at me.

If you were coming at this from the hygiene angle, I'd be more inclined to agree.

Aupmanyav · Oct 28th, 2009, 21:51

Not even a bone.

alouise · Oct 29th, 2009, 17:45

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nick-H

Revolting?

It's just a bit of flesh, for god's sake! What, and how much, we have to cover ourselves up, is a totally cultural thing anyway. There are many parts of the world (including some of India) where the women go bare chested: I'm not going to go there and accuse them of flashing at me.

If you were coming at this from the hygiene angle, I'd be more inclined to agree.

That's what I meant by revolting.

Nick-H · Oct 29th, 2009, 17:56

Oh, that revolting... well, yes... and I have to admit that I have some guilty feelings if I stop to think that it might not even rain for weeks

.

Oct 26th, 2009, 22:29	#91
machadinha brother my cup is empty member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: yörp Posts: 14,373	Hm. Matter of perception again you'd think. Contrary to some reports here to that effect, I really don't see men in India peeing all over the place all the time. Maybe it's because I hail from the Sodom and Gomorrah known as Amsterdam, where it's not uncommon either (yet hardly seen all day long either). I certainly wouldn't interpret it to be anything of a come-on no, or otherwise of the person wishing to "expose" themselves; but then, hey, I'm a man, and as we all know we never get harassed by anyone. I'd been thinking again by-the-by of, let's say, the stereotypical American living a pretty secluded life, transporting themselves mostly by car and such. Yes, it's a stereotype (and sorry to pick Americans again, the example just easily springs to mind. I'm not on about the nationality here, it could pertain to any number of peoples), but as stereotypes go, I hear even some "alternative" friends of mine there live that way, taking the car indeed to do some shopping three blocks down the road. In consequence, generally mingling with one's peers a lot of the time one presumes, and so on. Now picture said stereotypical, let's say not American but pretty insulated modern human being then, and put them smack-bang in the middle of a "developing" country (or in The Bronx or an Amsterdam new town ghetto, for all I care), where all of life and humanity still takes place pretty much bam in-your-face. With physical closeness not to mention signs of everyday bodily functions and processes all around, yikes. Yes, one can well imagine how the person will be left a little flabbergasted, maybe scared even; and perhaps being prone to interpreting much of it as being somehow related to, or directed at, that person in question, when in fact it mostly isn't. So, yes, a lot of these little culture shocks will have everything to do with where we're coming from, won't they. __________________ Reading tips, all picked up at IndiaMike : INDAX's A Comprehensive Guide To India / Dinoj Surendran's Desi Humor / ITHVC on Culture Shock & Travel Health / JetLag Travel Guides For the Undiscerning Traveller / India Travel Links

Oct 26th, 2009, 22:33	#92
theyyamdancer lost in Mechuka member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Crete Posts: 4,423	Yes. I agree wholeheartedly with this post, Mach. In fact, you don't have to go as far as India to be culturally shocked. There is just as much peeing in the street in Paris. Nobody cares. I was amazed when I first went there in the seventies. Nowadays I don't even notice it. So when you are accustomed to seeing something it does not strike you as odd. __________________ "Wandering seemed no more than the happiness of an anxious man." - Albert Camus

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Oct 27th, 2009, 00:31	#95
Nick-H This is just a cameo appearance Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Chennai, India Posts: 36,189	But... there's no bindis* there! h? no h? and if h, where? Damn... where's that Indian English Dictionary for Firefox?

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machadinha brother my cup is empty member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: yörp Posts: 14,373	LOL, Nick. Bhindi = okra (a vegetable, or fruit it seems in fact), or in Hindi anyway I think (hm, I find indications now it stems from the Tamil really. Often referred to as "lady's fingers" in India & perhaps some other countries.) Bindi = the forehead decoration

Oct 27th, 2009, 00:51	#97
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Oct 28th, 2009, 19:23	#98
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Oct 28th, 2009, 19:55	#100
Nick-H This is just a cameo appearance Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Chennai, India Posts: 36,189	Revolting? It's just a bit of flesh, for god's sake! What, and how much, we have to cover ourselves up, is a totally cultural thing anyway. There are many parts of the world (including some of India) where the women go bare chested: I'm not going to go there and accuse them of flashing at me. If you were coming at this from the hygiene angle, I'd be more inclined to agree.

Oct 28th, 2009, 21:51	#101
Aupmanyav Search, be your own guru Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: New Delhi Posts: 598	Not even a bone.

Oct 29th, 2009, 17:56	#103
Nick-H This is just a cameo appearance Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Chennai, India Posts: 36,189	Oh, that revolting... well, yes... and I have to admit that I have some guilty feelings if I stop to think that it might not even rain for weeks .