marriage/live-in

singsub · Jul 6th, 2008, 00:04

in india people marry in their twenties mostly. 30 is considered quite old to marry for a male, certainly for a female. i know its different in western countries. i want to know where our members stand. please answer the poll question.

Ali-Monbeam · Jul 13th, 2008, 02:10

we got married at 19 and this was considered young and a mistake.
We were told that it wouldnt last ...27 years ago....

federica · Jul 13th, 2008, 03:21

In Central Europe almost nobody gets married before she/he hasn't lived with the partner for sometime, minimum some months, but mostly some years.

A lot of people get married when they get their first child, after they've built a house together... or simply not at all, as "getting a paper" doesn't make a difference for them.

I don't have children, and never finished my own house, papers were not important for me, so never got married

Kingstonian · Jul 13th, 2008, 16:41

Don't know what the statistics say, but here in suburban Kingston, UK, in the street where I've lived for over 10 years, there's a pattern:

- young couple get together, move into a flat together, and save up
- they decide to go for it, and buy a house together on my street
- they do the house up
- they get pregnant (planned)
- they get married
- they have the baby
- they move to Devon/Wales/Northern Ireland/Yorkshire (ie, away from suburbia - often nearer to other family members)
- the next young couple move in, do the house up, etc etc

Munivar · Jul 23rd, 2008, 09:20

Quote:

Originally Posted by singsub

in india people marry in their twenties mostly. 30 is considered quite old to marry for a male, certainly for a female.

30 for male is not a big deal in India these days.

*just turned 30*

rhill1 · Jul 23rd, 2008, 15:05

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kingstonian

Don't know what the statistics say, but here in suburban Kingston, UK, in the street where I've lived for over 10 years, there's a pattern:

- young couple get together, move into a flat together, and save up
- they decide to go for it, and buy a house together on my street
- they do the house up
- they get pregnant (planned)
- they get married
- they have the baby
- they move to Devon/Wales/Northern Ireland/Yorkshire (ie, away from suburbia - often nearer to other family members)
- the next young couple move in, do the house up, etc etc

divorce rates??!!

darkside_of_d_sun · Aug 6th, 2008, 23:10

My girlfriend and I live together for half of the year when she is in Delhi! No to mention, its a nightmare to find a house in south delhi where an average Indian guy can live with his white girlfriend without paying astronomical money!

Rajrocker · Aug 8th, 2008, 02:29

I m still looking out for on live-in

Becki · Aug 8th, 2008, 08:14

Am constantly suprised the average age of marriage in India - very young! At 20 I was too caught up myself with getting my career established and travelling (and knowing) the world.

Do these young couples go into marriage understanding what they are looking for and responsibility? I would really like to know what the divorce rates are in India, though probably hard to get stats given I understand that sometimes divorce is frowned upon and couples stay in unhappy marriages.

And how are couples viewed if they aren't married but move in together - de facto relationships? Do married couples still have a tendency to live with in-laws or is this slowing changing?

I guess as more women in India get into professions and careers, etc the average age of marriage/live in would increase (?)

singsub · Aug 8th, 2008, 08:21

Quote:

Originally Posted by Becki

I guess as more women in India get into professions and careers, etc the average age of marriage/live in would increase (?)

as would the rates of divorce

Becki · Aug 8th, 2008, 08:28

Quote:

Originally Posted by singsub

as would the rates of divorce

True.

puchoo · Aug 8th, 2008, 12:27

Yep, thats a problem, girlfriend or no girlfriend..

Quote:

Originally Posted by darkside_of_d_sun

its a nightmare to find a house in south delhi where an average Indian guy can live with his white girlfriend without paying astronomical money!

errorinu · Aug 9th, 2008, 14:16

Quote:

Originally Posted by singsub

in india people marry in their twenties mostly. 30 is considered quite old to marry for a male, certainly for a female. i know its different in western countries. i want to know where our members stand. please answer the poll question.

Wat part of India are you refering to? Things are changing here and u need to be updated with India.....its a little fast

brishti · Aug 9th, 2008, 15:45

Quote:

Originally Posted by errorinu

Wat part of India are you refering to? Things are changing here and u need to be updated with India.....its a little fast

in all probability the OT is referring to an india which constitutes for
[ lets say offhand, somebody please correct me ]
87% of india which excludes all metro's...

its about rural india.

:brishti

singsub · Aug 9th, 2008, 16:27

no urban too.

View Poll Results: how old were you when you first married/started living in
below 20	7	13.73%
20-22	11	21.57%
23-25	11	21.57%
26-28	6	11.76%
29-31	6	11.76%
32 and above	4	7.84%
dont plan to get married/live with someone	2	3.92%
plan to marry/live-in, but havent yet done it	4	7.84%
Voters: 51. You may not vote on this poll

Jul 6th, 2008, 00:04	#1
singsub Account Closed Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: right next door to hell Posts: 1,171	marriage/live-in in india people marry in their twenties mostly. 30 is considered quite old to marry for a male, certainly for a female. i know its different in western countries. i want to know where our members stand. please answer the poll question.

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Kingstonian Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: UK Posts: 373	Don't know what the statistics say, but here in suburban Kingston, UK, in the street where I've lived for over 10 years, there's a pattern: - young couple get together, move into a flat together, and save up - they decide to go for it, and buy a house together on my street - they do the house up - they get pregnant (planned) - they get married - they have the baby - they move to Devon/Wales/Northern Ireland/Yorkshire (ie, away from suburbia - often nearer to other family members) - the next young couple move in, do the house up, etc etc

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Becki Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 47	Am constantly suprised the average age of marriage in India - very young! At 20 I was too caught up myself with getting my career established and travelling (and knowing) the world. Do these young couples go into marriage understanding what they are looking for and responsibility? I would really like to know what the divorce rates are in India, though probably hard to get stats given I understand that sometimes divorce is frowned upon and couples stay in unhappy marriages. And how are couples viewed if they aren't married but move in together - de facto relationships? Do married couples still have a tendency to live with in-laws or is this slowing changing? I guess as more women in India get into professions and careers, etc the average age of marriage/live in would increase (?)

Aug 9th, 2008, 16:27	#15
singsub Account Closed Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: right next door to hell Posts: 1,171	no urban too.

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