Relocating to Hyderabad from USA

Bullu

I am so happy that I found this forum. I have been looking for this kind of forum from a very long time.

I have so many questions. My parents are so against me to come back to India. But that was my ambition all along.

I have MS in US and 9 yrs Software experience. I work for a big company and my job is very safe and high paying. But that is not a criteria for me to stay in this country.

I have a kid, want to put him in good school in India. Here everything I have to teach him, besides doing a million other things inside and outside of home.

I cannot brief my 10yrs very stressful, miserable, all the time survival mode life, in a few pages. So I will come to my questions.

1.How good are my chances of getting a job in Hyd after Sep 2009. Ideally I want to take an year off, and then search for jobs. What kind of impact that will have on my resume?
2.How long will it take to adapt to India? Anybody in a similar boat? Please let me know your experiences.

I have some savings, so I can survive on the interests (I hope). I can live very simply or with little more comforts, since I already have a nice house and car in Hyd.

Also I am hoping to get a partner in India. I have got really good proposals here, but nobody were ready to relocate to India. May be now, you know HOW SERIOUS I AM to get back to India. So my next question would be, How life would be for a single mom in India? Of course, I will never let my coworkers in India(if I join in a job) know that I am single, since my friends in India who were into software jobs, advised against it.

I want to sleep peacefully for a while and eat some food made by somebody else, enjoy the simple pleasures of life, like celebrating festivals, going to functions, going to temple, taking vacations etc.

I really appreciate any help from you guys. Thanks a lot for reading my post.

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Living from 10yrs in USA

nayan

I cant predict what will be the situation after sept 2009. Right now almost no fresh recruitment is taking place in the IT industry.

Since you have nearly 10 years of work experience, 1 years break will not have any adverse impact. Specially if you can explain it like you took the time off to be with family ot to take a long awaited vacation etc.

mjain1963

Dear Bulluji,

Great to know you are planning back. Happy comeing back home. I had similer experience when shifted back after spending 11 long good years abroad.

I can uderstand your mind and heart. So many questions and wanting all answers in one shot, quite interesting !

What I can tell you that even I have exactly same state but every thing went well with few hickups here and there.

Job, no problems at all. Living good life depends upon u and the circumstances u have with u there ! I you have matured veiws as it looks, I ma sure no one can bother you and you will be happy with.

School, be carefull and take local helps and openion. Best will be CBSE sylabus, may be we can find some international courses too but it needs to be deliberated.

Preserve your savings and spend judiciously till you catchup.

I thing you have matured views and thinking. so nothing to worry at all except that you will have to face what ever is destined for you by !!!!!!!!!

I can be reached at mjain1963@sify.com or 00919871202299 any time for any friendly help. we can even chat on yahoo messanger if u do that.

Best personal regards,

AwayFromHome

Can't be specific about job opportunities - this is a rough time for employment globally.

I just relocated to India. Some things are important:

- Do you own property in the US that you will be able to sell and provide you with a 'start-up' revenue stream in India?

- Your decision seems very emotional. Nothing wrong with that, but be aware that ground realities are different from dreams. Life in India can be very rewarding, or very taxing.

- Why are your parents opposed to you moving back? It is relevant, because it could make a huge difference in your social/familial environment.


Please think carefully before making a major move. Both the US and India have great pluses, and minuses. You are the only one who can decide what's right for you and your kid.

And Best Luck!

Raghu.Kumar

Hi Bullu,

Yes you have come to the right forum where you would find many useful piece of advice from Experienced hands which would not only help you to plan your move but also support you emotionally. I happened to read you post just now. While I very much want to respond to your queries ASAP, I need to leave on some work. I shall come back to you with my response over the weekend or on Monday. However by that time you can see a flurry of responses. You would need a big file to keep all of those useful tips.

Best Wishes and Welcome Back.

Raghu

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Bullu

Thank you so much for your replies.

To answer why parents are opposing. Actually, only my father opposes and everybody else advised me to come back long time ago, since they have seen me undergo the impossible circumstances till date. I should have returned 5yrs ago, but that time dot com burst was over and job market picked up. So I wanted to stabilize myself financially, thats why I stayed back and by God's grace, managed to survive and save some money.

My father's fears include a lot of false blah blah opinions of the society around him. He thinks if I am in US nobody knows about my divorce (He cannot accept the fact that everybody knows about it 5yrs ago) and he can be very happy. I stopped figuring him out, even though I am doing everything to take care of everything, he is not happy.

Anyway, a time has come for me, to think about myself, my health and my happiness. Don't get me wrong here, but I never thought about myself so far. I worked so hard all my life, I always was a rank student and excelled in things I put my mind to. I want to break that cycle of being IDEAL in every role. I cannot, I don't want to anymore.

I myself did not know that I can survive this far in the kind of life I faced. But by God's grace, I still have hope that my life might get normal. I thank god, if I don't have sad days.

Looking forward to starting a new life. Problems are everywhere in US and in India. I decided to get myself accustomed to the problems in India.

Thanks for the warm welcome. That really makes my day. Thanks a lot.

Raghu.Kumar

Dear Bullu,

I am sure you would feel very welcome here and get many useful advices. On another note, I wish to let you know that there is another forum called r2iclub.com which is an exlusive forum for people returning to India where there is a exclsive women's group also who would be able to advise on returning to India, the challenges and advantages. As i am a member of that forum also, i took the liberty of seeking advice on your behalf for your post and got some good responses which i shall forward it to you. Some of the members felt ,it would be good if you could directly participate in the discussions so that your interactions can be direct and would be useful to you.

You may still continue to seek opinions in India Mike, but also have that as an addtional source.

I pray that your move to India would proove to be a wise decision for you and give you all happiness and peace

Best Wishes,

Raghu

Raghu.Kumar

Hi Bullu,

Hope you read my other post. As mentioned earlier, I would like to forward you the responses received from the members. One of them was Tejasvini, who had moved from US to Hyd,( Mar 2009) but now in Bangalore and she has given some good suggestions. Do let me know where to mail the same.

Have a good Weekend,

Regards, Raghu

Bullu

Hi Raghu,

I just found the thread in the other forum. I will go through it now.

Thanks a lot.

raajk108

Its good that u ar coming back to your own land its always fine to be back home,its ur ouwn house in ur motherland,its one of the best things tht can ever happn,let ur kids know the culture and warmness and affections of this land,and regarding ur single status its not such a major problem ,there are many like u in this world,so dont be pessimistic.if anything more do get back yaar think easy thats it...