Social life in Bangalore

abhay · Feb 18th, 2008, 14:26

I would recommend expats attend events at the

Alliance Française de Bangalore (Indo-French Cultural Centre)
http://www.afindia.org/Bangalore/contactus.htm

Or

The Max Muller Bhavan ( Indo - German Cultural centre )
http://www.goethe.de/ins/in/bag/enindex.htm

You get decent crowds at their cultural events and you could
build it on from there.

Zsu · Feb 19th, 2008, 01:17

thanks, Abhay!

abhay · Feb 25th, 2008, 14:26

Glad to be of help.. Zsu

let us know how it goes

Piper · Mar 17th, 2008, 22:00

Quote:

Originally Posted by Indjun

What is a 'vellacara'?

I went to Bangalore meetups using Meetup.com and I swear to God it was all men! I asked the folks if women ever showed up and they said rarely. I wonder is it totally OK with the locals to always be hanging out with men? I see it everywhere - only men hanging with men. Where are the women in this country?

Hi Indjun---I went to the American Expat meetup last weekend (first time) and it was about 50/50 men & women. Some of the people I met seemed fun and hey, I guess it could be a start for you. Maybe you should try again if you're still looking for a social outlet.

Indjun · Mar 19th, 2008, 13:25

Where was the meetup you went to? I was at a BEC meetup at Maya.

Piper · Mar 19th, 2008, 14:48

I found it on Meetup.com. It was at Angeethi @ Museum Inn on Museum Road (close to your place if you are near MG Road). Here's the site: http://american.meetup.com/242/
I was actually (pleasantly) surprised at the type of people that showed up. It was billed as a networking-type of meetup (vs. dating/social), so maybe that was part of it. I did meet a few folks I would definitely hang out with on a weekend. I'd place a lot of the group between late 20s-late 30s & single.

Indjun · Mar 19th, 2008, 15:35

Yes, I am registered with that group, but ended up going to the BEC event instead. You should chech them out - they are a large group who are all expats here. Very social crowd.

RoadWarrior · Mar 26th, 2008, 23:40

I'm dreading this problem myself. I'm currently residing in Bangkok, Thailand, but have decided to move to Bangalore at the end of April. I'm wondering what I'm getting myself into. I'm a reasonably young (37) and reasonably attractive white dude from the USA, and I know that penetrating the Bangalore social scene is going to be immensely challenging.

Indians with whom I've spoken in the States keep downplaying my concerns, telling me that I'll have no problem meeting women in Bangalore, but I've read otherwise on this forum and others. I can't help but suspect that they're out of touch.

It's become apparent to me that I'm going to have to get extremely creative if I want to have any semblance of a social life or interaction with the opposite sex in Bangalore.

It's bad enough that most Indian women won't even look in my direction because I'm not Indian and obviously not of their caste. However, the fact that Indian social life puts up such immense barriers between the sexes and between strangers is intimidating.

I know that the pool of foreign women in Bangalore isn't very large, so realistically, I'm going to need to date Indian women if I want to have a social life, which I welcome, but I'm not so sure they feel the same.

On the one hand, I'm looking forward to moving to Bangalore, but on the other hand, I'm dreading what I know could be a very lonely and frustrating existence -- at least initially.

vinayverma · Mar 27th, 2008, 00:01

it can never be like BKK ( Bangkok) but it's not that bad, but you'll need to work a bit hard. how hard I don't know but I suggest be prepared for a little longer period of celibacy than in BKK.

RoadWarrior · Mar 27th, 2008, 00:18

Quote:

Originally Posted by vinayverma

it can never be like BKK ( Bangkok) but it's not that bad, but you'll need to work a bit hard. how hard I don't know but I suggest be prepared for a little longer period of celibacy than in BKK.

So longer than 10 minutes, then?

Of course, I don't expect things to be like Bangkok, or like the Philippines, where the girls smile at you and practically beg you to approach them. I'm just hoping for a sliver of opportunity in Bangalore.

Indjun · Mar 27th, 2008, 09:53

Roadwarrior, I have made some good inroads into the expat scene here. They are a good, social bunch of folks. But, I really want to meet the Indian women (I am Indian myself and always found them attractive). Send me a PM when you get here and we can try to crack the code together.

brishti · Mar 27th, 2008, 13:14

... and keep posting them cracked codes indjun - we were a sympathetic lot here on IM - so you owe us

roadwarrior - you have a comrade-with-arms here, so chill

how has blr been thus far indjun? tell...

:brishti

RoadWarrior · Mar 27th, 2008, 14:15

Quote:

Originally Posted by Indjun

Roadwarrior, I have made some good inroads into the expat scene here. They are a good, social bunch of folks. But, I really want to meet the Indian women (I am Indian myself and always found them attractive). Send me a PM when you get here and we can try to crack the code together.

Thanks, I appreciate that. I'm going to start apartment hunting in a couple of weeks and plan to find something in Koramangala. I'll be working out of my apartment (I connect to my office computer in the USA remotely via Remote Desktop Connection).

One thing in my favor is that some Indian friends of mine in Atlanta have hooked me up with their relatives in Bangalore, who may be a good starting point for social connections.

Thanks again, Indjun. I'll contact you when I get to Bangalore and we'll see what we can do about the code.

RoadWarrior · Jun 1st, 2008, 01:01

Was wondering if anyone here has any suggestions about where to meet attractive women in Bangalore. I knew it would be challenging before I came, but, even so, the reality of the situation has been pretty disappointing. As a white guy, I knew my dating options would be limited, but I still hoped to have some success with more liberally-minded women.

It seems that the choices are either pubs filled with 99% men or clubs with Rs. 1,000 covers and Rs. 700 mixed drinks blasting techno music at ear-shattering volume.

I feel like neither of those options is what I'm looking for.

So, my question is this -- even though I've never been big on meeting women at bars, are there any places in town where attractive women go to spend time that aren't dance clubs that blast music at top volume? I don't like dancing, so I try to avoid dance clubs. Unfortunately, this seems to have left me with few options.

Also, it seems that every group of girls out on the town has a male escort whose attachment to them is difficult to figure out. Is he dating one of them, is he just a friend? I have no idea. What's the deal with this phenomenon?

Any suggestions would be much appreciated. It's starting to get depressing here.

RoadWarrior · Jun 1st, 2008, 01:14

Well, my post just got appended to an old thread, which makes it look very odd.

Pretty obvious that others are having the same problem meeting women here.

By the way, if you love ear shattering techno music, then Bangalore Expat Club functions are perfect for you. If you don't like ear-shattering techno music, then I would avoid the BEC, because all of their events are at techno clubs, unless you want to run in a marathon or go hiking in the mountains.

I really don't understand why the BEC schedules all of their social events at loud techno clubs, as it makes it impossible to talk to people with the music blasting so loud that it could melt glass.

Feb 18th, 2008, 14:26	#16
abhay Tat Tvam Asi Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Bangalore Posts: 44	I would recommend expats attend events at the Alliance Française de Bangalore (Indo-French Cultural Centre) http://www.afindia.org/Bangalore/contactus.htm Or The Max Muller Bhavan ( Indo - German Cultural centre ) http://www.goethe.de/ins/in/bag/enindex.htm You get decent crowds at their cultural events and you could build it on from there. __________________ "The hands that work are better than the hands that pray ” - Zarathustra

Mar 27th, 2008, 00:01	#24
vinayverma Maha Infrequent Member Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Gurgaon Posts: 1,289	it can never be like BKK ( Bangkok) but it's not that bad, but you'll need to work a bit hard. how hard I don't know but I suggest be prepared for a little longer period of celibacy than in BKK. __________________ If Life is a journey....travel on...and on..on..on.....

Jun 1st, 2008, 01:01	#29
RoadWarrior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Bangalore, India Posts: 21	Meeting Women in Bangalore? Was wondering if anyone here has any suggestions about where to meet attractive women in Bangalore. I knew it would be challenging before I came, but, even so, the reality of the situation has been pretty disappointing. As a white guy, I knew my dating options would be limited, but I still hoped to have some success with more liberally-minded women. It seems that the choices are either pubs filled with 99% men or clubs with Rs. 1,000 covers and Rs. 700 mixed drinks blasting techno music at ear-shattering volume. I feel like neither of those options is what I'm looking for. So, my question is this -- even though I've never been big on meeting women at bars, are there any places in town where attractive women go to spend time that aren't dance clubs that blast music at top volume? I don't like dancing, so I try to avoid dance clubs. Unfortunately, this seems to have left me with few options. Also, it seems that every group of girls out on the town has a male escort whose attachment to them is difficult to figure out. Is he dating one of them, is he just a friend? I have no idea. What's the deal with this phenomenon? Any suggestions would be much appreciated. It's starting to get depressing here.

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Feb 19th, 2008, 01:17	#17
Zsu Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Bangalore Posts: 15	thanks, Abhay!

Feb 25th, 2008, 14:26	#18
abhay Tat Tvam Asi Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Bangalore Posts: 44	Glad to be of help.. Zsu let us know how it goes

Mar 19th, 2008, 13:25	#20
Indjun Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Miami-Bangalore Posts: 73	Where was the meetup you went to? I was at a BEC meetup at Maya.

Mar 19th, 2008, 14:48	#21
Piper Standard-issue lurker Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Bangalore Posts: 75	I found it on Meetup.com. It was at Angeethi @ Museum Inn on Museum Road (close to your place if you are near MG Road). Here's the site: http://american.meetup.com/242/ I was actually (pleasantly) surprised at the type of people that showed up. It was billed as a networking-type of meetup (vs. dating/social), so maybe that was part of it. I did meet a few folks I would definitely hang out with on a weekend. I'd place a lot of the group between late 20s-late 30s & single.

Mar 19th, 2008, 15:35	#22
Indjun Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Miami-Bangalore Posts: 73	Yes, I am registered with that group, but ended up going to the BEC event instead. You should chech them out - they are a large group who are all expats here. Very social crowd.

Mar 26th, 2008, 23:40	#23
RoadWarrior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Bangalore, India Posts: 21	I'm dreading this problem myself. I'm currently residing in Bangkok, Thailand, but have decided to move to Bangalore at the end of April. I'm wondering what I'm getting myself into. I'm a reasonably young (37) and reasonably attractive white dude from the USA, and I know that penetrating the Bangalore social scene is going to be immensely challenging. Indians with whom I've spoken in the States keep downplaying my concerns, telling me that I'll have no problem meeting women in Bangalore, but I've read otherwise on this forum and others. I can't help but suspect that they're out of touch. It's become apparent to me that I'm going to have to get extremely creative if I want to have any semblance of a social life or interaction with the opposite sex in Bangalore. It's bad enough that most Indian women won't even look in my direction because I'm not Indian and obviously not of their caste. However, the fact that Indian social life puts up such immense barriers between the sexes and between strangers is intimidating. I know that the pool of foreign women in Bangalore isn't very large, so realistically, I'm going to need to date Indian women if I want to have a social life, which I welcome, but I'm not so sure they feel the same. On the one hand, I'm looking forward to moving to Bangalore, but on the other hand, I'm dreading what I know could be a very lonely and frustrating existence -- at least initially.

Mar 27th, 2008, 09:53	#26
Indjun Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Miami-Bangalore Posts: 73	Roadwarrior, I have made some good inroads into the expat scene here. They are a good, social bunch of folks. But, I really want to meet the Indian women (I am Indian myself and always found them attractive). Send me a PM when you get here and we can try to crack the code together.

Mar 27th, 2008, 13:14	#27
brishti just another member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: india Posts: 1,968	... and keep posting them cracked codes indjun - we were a sympathetic lot here on IM - so you owe us roadwarrior - you have a comrade-with-arms here, so chill how has blr been thus far indjun? tell... :brishti

Jun 1st, 2008, 01:14	#30
RoadWarrior Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Bangalore, India Posts: 21	Well, my post just got appended to an old thread, which makes it look very odd. Pretty obvious that others are having the same problem meeting women here. By the way, if you love ear shattering techno music, then Bangalore Expat Club functions are perfect for you. If you don't like ear-shattering techno music, then I would avoid the BEC, because all of their events are at techno clubs, unless you want to run in a marathon or go hiking in the mountains. I really don't understand why the BEC schedules all of their social events at loud techno clubs, as it makes it impossible to talk to people with the music blasting so loud that it could melt glass.

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