Visiting India for a wedding

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Hi

Myself, husband and 4 month old son are off to Kolkata mid Jan for a wedding. It is the second time myself and husband have been to India but first time to Kolkata. The groom has organised our accomodation and a car with driver so we can get around while we are there.
We are unsure with the wedding about the present, there are two ceromony days one for the grooms side and one for the brides side I think, do we need to take a present for each?
Any advise about gifts, weddings or Kolkata would be appreciated.
Thanks
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Webbie

Welcome to IM. Have you seen this thread?

India - wedding gifts??

When you view it you will see other links on the right hand side of the page and also right at the bottom.

There is a link with Kolkata tips in the first post on this thread.

Going to Kolkata - Looky Here !!!

Hope this helps.
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#3 Jan 6th, 2012, 17:35
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Indians prefer gold rings,necklaces or gold plated watches for the typical wedding.You can try these gifts while you reach in Kolkata as you will get contemporary Indian designs as per Indian tastes.

Well one more thing Kolkata is a nice place to stay a while,but not for longer times.

Have a gala time ,visiting India.

With cheers!!

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Originally Posted by Webbie1 View Post Hi

Myself, husband and 4 month old son are off to Kolkata mid Jan for a wedding. It is the second time myself and husband have been to India but first time to Kolkata. The groom has organised our accomodation and a car with driver so we can get around while we are there.
We are unsure with the wedding about the present, there are two ceromony days one for the grooms side and one for the brides side I think, do we need to take a present for each?
Any advise about gifts, weddings or Kolkata would be appreciated.
Thanks
The two ceremonies are the wedding(organized by the brides family) and Boubhat/reception(organized by the grooms family). You are supposed to give only one gift. I assume you are a friend of the groom. Then you can give your gift during the reception. Thats what most of the grooms guests will be doing, even the ones who will accompany the groom to the wedding(borjatris/baraatis).

Among bengalis(I am assuming the groom is bengali) gifts of gold ornaments is usually only given by family and relatives. Gifting cash(in a festive envelope)is a good option unless you know the likes and dislikes of the bride very well.

A few tokens from your country (souveniers, calenders etc) will be appreciated by groom's family.
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@nayan....on the dot.very well described...guess cash in a fancy envelope is a safe bet
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Great thanks for the info.
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Among bengalis(I am assuming the groom is bengali) gifts of gold ornaments is usually only given by family and relatives. Gifting cash(in a festive envelope)is a good option unless you know the likes and dislikes of the bride very well.

A few tokens from your country (souveniers, calenders etc) will be appreciated by groom's family.
We were invited to a Bengali wedding in Delhi - the groom was Bengali, the bride belonged to Delhi. We were not acquainted with the couple but rather knew the parents of the bride.

After much fretting, we decided a gift from our home state of Vermont would be a good choice. We purchased a decorative piece of art glass from a local art dealer knowing that the gift was one-of-a-kind and something we hoped they would like. We chose not to give money since we wanted to give something different that they could remember us by. Rather than inexpensive souveniers from your home, a piece of local art might be another alternative.

Be sure to choose something portable. Our gift was glass, but very heavy and sturdy and survived the trip. Also, don't wrap your gift until you arrive in case customs anywhere along the way checks your luggage.

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Hi Webbie
I can share my experience of a wedding in Mumbai.

It was a short version of an Indian wedding. I was invited by a groom. I had 3 gifts, one for bride, one for groom and a gold ring for girl as a gift for both. It seems that a gold ring was the best gift. By the way I asked my friend if he wanted something before and he told me that it is enough if I come.

The first day - a flat of groom with a puja, I gave him money (10) because he played a beggar and a gift for him (Jamie Oliver's cooking book). Second day wedding in a wedding hall, I gave them gift for both and bride received her gift (a picture of a god Gunesh). My friend explained her that it is ok to take it, because he received his gift a day before. Thirst day a puja of married couple in the flat. The day number 4 a puja in a temple. I wanted see everything but some people were only at wedding day. Some people were there for 2 or 3 days.
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