Melting in Noida

MonkeyQueen · Jul 2nd, 2008, 17:42

hi everyone! i've been a devout reader for months & now i finally arrived to india...

im Croatian & right now staying with my Indian boyfriend in Noida, we're actually planning to get married in arya samaj, now we're arranging the papers, we were supposed to start everything immediately but the heat is making us so lazy, my country also has hot summers but this is too much for me... i think everything will be ok after an adjustment period

jyotirmoy · Jul 2nd, 2008, 17:53

Welcome Queen. This heat is nothing. You are very lucky, your first summer is the coolest summer in history.

solo_trekker · Jul 2nd, 2008, 18:48

From Croatia to Noida...
With Love...!
For Love...!

Cheers...!

brownboy66 · Jul 2nd, 2008, 19:36

Hi MQ, and welcome to IndiaMike. Thankfully the summer this year has not been as hot as in the past (I kid you not).

In anycase, welcome to India and happy travels

MonkeyQueen · Jul 2nd, 2008, 19:50

ohhh, i cant even imagine a hot summer then...but im the complaning type, i'd be complaining about everything if i was back in zagreb now

theyyamdancer · Jul 2nd, 2008, 19:59

Hello MonkeyQueen and welcome to India Mike and welcome to India! Hope you will get more rain soon.

triliana · Jul 2nd, 2008, 21:51

Today is a very hot and humid day, as far as this summer goes.

Best of luck to you and your intended! And welcome!

singsub · Jul 2nd, 2008, 23:08

maybe MQ you should tell that guy with the romanian girl friend about how you got your visa to india.

MonkeyQueen · Jul 3rd, 2008, 10:22

well, im actually here on a 6 months tourist visa which is very easy to get in my country & my return ticket is on sept. 10 cause we're not sure yet where we'll live after marriage... my bf has a friend who got married to a foreigner recently & she got spouse visa in india without much problem so we'll definitely try for that but i have to go home anyway to finish my degree

another problem is his very traditional family that doesnt have a clue what we're planning, he just told them he wouldnt accept arranged marriage proposals & his dad isnt speaking to him now,they think he'll accept after some time

now we're supposed to hurry with marriage & see what happens

singsub · Jul 3rd, 2008, 22:18

if you dont mind what linguistic community does your bf belong to ??

MonkeyQueen · Jul 4th, 2008, 19:02

hi sing... he is a hindi speaking hindu...is it important somehow?

singsub · Jul 4th, 2008, 20:20

er yes.

MonkeyQueen · Jul 4th, 2008, 23:44

yeah, i know its important, but i mean how does it change our relationship... would it be different if he were south indian for example?

singsub · Jul 5th, 2008, 00:44

Quote:

Originally Posted by MonkeyQueen

yeah, i know its important, but i mean how does it change our relationship... would it be different if he were south indian for example?

of course.

triliana · Jul 7th, 2008, 14:45

How could it make any difference to them? It mostly makes a difference to us - we are able to put people in boxes a lot easier.

But I don't think that it really makes much of a difference where his family is from. Another American friend whose parents were from an inter-community marriage and divorced later - his parents had problems too. My boyfriend's parents are rather conservative Bengalis and his mom isn't happy about it and dad is slightly disapproving. Another friend recently married a guy from Mysore against his parents' wishes. So north, south, east and west - most people's parents have problems if you bring home someone who isn't Indian.

Come to think of it, my Indian friends who had inter-religious and inter-community marriages in India also ran up against problems with their parents. And these are people who grew up in Mumbai and Delhi, not from the local village.

The problems are not insurmountable ... and every situation is different. But it's tough

I wish you all the best....

Jul 2nd, 2008, 17:42	#1
MonkeyQueen Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Zagreb/Noida Posts: 28	Melting in Noida hi everyone! i've been a devout reader for months & now i finally arrived to india... im Croatian & right now staying with my Indian boyfriend in Noida, we're actually planning to get married in arya samaj, now we're arranging the papers, we were supposed to start everything immediately but the heat is making us so lazy, my country also has hot summers but this is too much for me... i think everything will be ok after an adjustment period

Jul 2nd, 2008, 19:36	#4
brownboy66 Chicken 65 Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: New Delhi Posts: 2,265	Hi MQ, and welcome to IndiaMike. Thankfully the summer this year has not been as hot as in the past (I kid you not). In anycase, welcome to India and happy travels __________________ "the last meal is history - its the next one that's important" - Garfield (the cat) IndiaMike Mod Team.... just some plonker with access to the mod tools

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MonkeyQueen Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Zagreb/Noida Posts: 28	well, im actually here on a 6 months tourist visa which is very easy to get in my country & my return ticket is on sept. 10 cause we're not sure yet where we'll live after marriage... my bf has a friend who got married to a foreigner recently & she got spouse visa in india without much problem so we'll definitely try for that but i have to go home anyway to finish my degree another problem is his very traditional family that doesnt have a clue what we're planning, he just told them he wouldnt accept arranged marriage proposals & his dad isnt speaking to him now,they think he'll accept after some time now we're supposed to hurry with marriage & see what happens

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singsub Account Closed Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: right next door to hell Posts: 1,171	if you dont mind what linguistic community does your bf belong to ??

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MonkeyQueen Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Zagreb/Noida Posts: 28	hi sing... he is a hindi speaking hindu...is it important somehow?

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MonkeyQueen Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Zagreb/Noida Posts: 28	yeah, i know its important, but i mean how does it change our relationship... would it be different if he were south indian for example?

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triliana Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Texas Posts: 64	How could it make any difference to them? It mostly makes a difference to us - we are able to put people in boxes a lot easier. But I don't think that it really makes much of a difference where his family is from. Another American friend whose parents were from an inter-community marriage and divorced later - his parents had problems too. My boyfriend's parents are rather conservative Bengalis and his mom isn't happy about it and dad is slightly disapproving. Another friend recently married a guy from Mysore against his parents' wishes. So north, south, east and west - most people's parents have problems if you bring home someone who isn't Indian. Come to think of it, my Indian friends who had inter-religious and inter-community marriages in India also ran up against problems with their parents. And these are people who grew up in Mumbai and Delhi, not from the local village. The problems are not insurmountable ... and every situation is different. But it's tough I wish you all the best....