Marriage/India Women

Carla

Your posts (#5 & #7) read as thoughtful and heartfelt - and they contain much sense. Well done!

Haze

hey well said what a brilliant piece of advice you have just given this guy you should be a counselor :-)) hones
cheers mikkie

I suggest you actually visit India and form your opinion first hand before further developing your plans to live part time in India and marry an Indian woman.

The OP seems to have vanished - maybe Carla scared him away with her no-nonsense, straight-to-the-point excellent posts

Me thinks he maybe another one of those chaps looking for "pleasure" and masking with his "financially secure" bs.

Cheers

Nattusbs

Hmm, I did think, for a moment, that he may be better off in some rural areas of some SE Asian countries.

Sage comment Capt..

That's the way I saw it and that's why I unloaded on him.

Yes. Hopefully Carla helped him realise it's the 21st century, and 'The Stepford Wife' does not really exist.

I started to reply last night and my first sentence was "I'm not going to be as diplomatic as the others....", but thought better of it......

Since the materialism or the lack of it lies with the individual why not Goa/Kerala, certainly it's easier to get out of the rat race in a country that charges so little for the privilage. There are thousands of people from lands around the world doing just that. In Goa, Uttarakhand, Himachal Pradesh, Orissa, Tami Nadu...........

Modern India may certainly be materialistic and why not, but much of it isn't, not by choice but simply by financial wherewithal and a life that sees no need to peck away at tradition.
It's easy to live 5 months of care free existance in Goa or anywhere else in india, simple pleasure like awaking with rural India and watching the streets slowly come alive, seasonal fruits arrivng at the small markets, a game of caramboel at the local chai stop.
Observing the heartfelt celebrations during rural festivals, bird watching, seeing the sun disappear into the sea, watching the local kids at play.
This and a million other simple things that make up day to day life in India.

I've been doing this for the last 20 years and have enjoyed it immensly and it didn't cost much either, so go for it I say.

The woman question is difficult, I would say that you may well be able to sort out something in time, but as others have insinuated you may be getting a "wife" who wants to be with you for all the wrong reasons, but hey I've seen that turn into love as well.
Someone you own age would be a lot better, A widow perhaps, you'll perhaps still be the walking wallet but at least you'll have something to talk about and you might be helping her out in life too.
With many marriages in India, love is something that blooms through the years it's not expected at first dawn.

Have you thought of Thailand ;-)



I'm missing something here in the tone some of the replies
We've given him a big lecture on life without reading what he said,
He didn't for instance say he expected India not be materialistic, he said he wanted to live that way, non materialistic was NOT a pre requisite for his proposed marriage either.
People seem to have read an awful lot into this guys thoughts without him actually stating any such thing.

Marriage through financial wherewithal may not be an marriage made in heaven but even in the west some women spring for it. Heather Mills springs to mind he he.

I see guys with young Thai wive's and I think it all looks a bit sad on HIS part but hey no one forced her to get married and in the end they get what they signed up for, financial security and a passport, some even go the distance, many don't and the woman flees the coop after some years, with a new passport and language.

Like I say it's not my idea of the perfect realtionship either but to insinuate it's somehow morally wrong. Well let's just say there are other ways to look at this.

At least my first response was practical, though the later passing thought insinuation may have been judgemental.

I will only say this. Having known well the 'young Thai' phenomenon (one of my Norwegian friends is still there), I do not consider it morally questionable. Just pathetic.

I'm not sure that anyone insinuated that it was morally wrong.

Whatever he's looking for, I think he came to the wrong place for advice.

Umm not really. There are a lot of single career woman between 28-33 year maybe older.
Would they want hang out with a 50 year old guy?

But i do know a 50 year old indian woman who married a 50 year old westerner so looking at someone close to your own age probably would be better.

My only thought after reading that mail from dbf was that he needed to be a Time Traveller...The expectations that he has (non materialistic etc)probably can be met only if he travels back to say 1857...