Etiquette... going to an Indian home for Dinner....

#1 Jan 2nd, 2011, 20:00
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My wife & I have been invited by an Indian colleague/friend to his home for dinner with his wife & young daughter and am just wondering what the normal etiquette is.

For context, we both live in Australia, and his family have been in Australia for several years, but they still have strong Indian ties. He is originally from Kerala and could be described as middle class. He does drink (ie at most 1 beer after work), but I get the feeling this is to fit-in with work colleagues and probably not something he does at home.

Ordinarily with Australian friends, if I was invited to their house for dinner, I would bring a nice bottle of wine and something for dessert.

I sense that bringing alcohol to his home may be presumptuous, so I guess my question is what would be the social norm to show my appreciation for their generosity?
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take something for his daughter and wife. i think a fruit basket or some chocolates would be the best for them. even if you dont take anything at all i dont think they will mind. normally in India when people invite you for meals tey just expect them to like what they serve. i am sure with two women in the house you are going to enjoy the food.
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#3 Jan 2nd, 2011, 21:47
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I think the first thing you should say when he opens the door is

'you alright, curry muncher?'

And things would go swimmingly from there!

NOT. Kidding.

A bottle of wine would be fine. Candy for the kids, if he's got kids. That's about it. A feigned interest in kids too would win you brownie points. Flowers....don't....I always end up thinking, man, with this money, some booze would have been better. But then, I'm daft as you can see.

And if you don't know what he's serving, ask. They'd be more than happy to explain. As he's Mallu, presumably non veg fare would be the menu. And they do make delectable non veg fare.

Enjoy and don't barf on the table; do it on the kids. They won't bother you again.
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I'd take Godiva or some other yummy chocolates so both generations are covered and/or take a dessert which doesn't have to be served right away. I usually have dessert ready so when someone brings one over, it's a quandary whether to serve it or not. Usually I end up serving both. Anyway, enjoy your dinner!
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Originally Posted by Ian_Turpie View Post My wife & I have been invited by an Indian colleague/friend to his home for dinner with his wife & young daughter and am just wondering what the normal etiquette is.

For context, we both live in Australia, and his family have been in Australia for several years, but they still have strong Indian ties. He is originally from Kerala and could be described as middle class. He does drink (ie at most 1 beer after work), but I get the feeling this is to fit-in with work colleagues and probably not something he does at home.

Ordinarily with Australian friends, if I was invited to their house for dinner, I would bring a nice bottle of wine and something for dessert.
I suggest you do exactly what you would when invited by any other colleague.
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I agree with the suggestion of some nice chocolates.
Enjoy!
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