Mixed marriage? Chinese/ Indian

Dilliwala · Oct 27th, 2007, 20:42

Well, let's not jump to conclusions just yet.

Quote:

To cut it short, my bf is tangling in this never-ending 498a for 5 yrs.

Let's say this means what it sounds like - the boyfriend has a case of domestic abuse filed against him by his present (or former) wife, rightly or wrongly. This doesn't mean the OP is getting abused. In this country domestic abuse laws strictly correlate to marriage. What's shocking for the OP seems to be that she only found out recently about a) the case or b) the case AND the wife!

Let's wait till she clarifies. Of course, if he's hidden from her that he is/was married even, then hmmm............

capt_mahajan · Oct 27th, 2007, 20:48

Quote:

Well, let's not jump to conclusions just yet.

Yep. My post gave the wrong impression. Thanks for pointing it out.

I actually meant, "And if anybody is getting abused, that person.. (provided I am right about 498) should walk away now."

machadinha · Oct 27th, 2007, 20:51

I think OP only added that paragraph later, after the Capt. had already written his reply. It originally sounded like she was the subject of it indeed.

Googling around some this is what the law seems to address, and there seem to be plenty of complaints about its abuse (many by men and their families, apparently, go figure). In any case, sounds to me like BF may be caught up in something like that, and OP is trying to come to grips with the ramifications.

No judgments from me on this one... Except to wish OP well no matter what.

Sarah_KK · Oct 30th, 2007, 20:15

Actually he told me right at the beginning when we first met 2 yrs ago. Of course i knew about his case but just didn't know it's called 498a. Check this URL" http://saveindianfamily.org/

May be i will start a new thread of this topic. Cos it is getting very detour from my orginal questions. Thanks for everyone's input. Really thanks.

bittersweet511 · May 10th, 2008, 13:09

Hey Sarah!
Im an indian girl who is currently dating a chinese boy!
i was wondering if you could give me some more insight on your relationship!
thankyou

xiaojie · May 17th, 2008, 11:04

Hi Nicole/ Sarah,

I have 2 Indian male friends (one from North India) who are married to Local chinese..& currently working in Beijing

I am a Indian national now in South China...How about a India mike meet up in BEI in june??

xiao_yunxi · May 30th, 2008, 00:57

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sarah_KK

Yeah... Thanks for all keeping this thread alive. Apologise for living in a paralle universe for the last year. A lot of things happened and I have been treading water constantly.

I am half died if not all... struggle to keep sanity btween reality and passion. Anyone can tell me about 498a IPC?

To cut it short, my bf is tangling in this never-ending 498a for 5 yrs. I only found out some information from the internet recently. I am stocked to know how the brutal this law can be.

Any advise?

** Let me read this long thread from the beginning... sorry for missing

hi,i am yunxi from shenyang of china,i also married with indian 2 years ago.now i am living in mumbai,here i know 3 chindia couples,do you need any help from us?
how about you now?any news?

Nick-H · May 30th, 2008, 01:12

Yunxi, welcome to Indiamike.com

xiao_yunxi · May 30th, 2008, 14:31

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nick-H

Yunxi, welcome to Indiamike.com

thanks a lot!

smilingfish · Jun 1st, 2008, 07:49

Hi yunxi

I am fish from Beijing, I am new to this forum. But it's very interesting to read through the topics and knew there's someone there whom i may turn to. I have an indian bf whom we are having this long distance relationship for one year, and it seemed this will be continueing for another 1 year untill he managed to move to beijing. I am just wondering how the life be there to live in india for an chinese girl? is it very different from our lifes in China?

thanks
fish

Quote:

Originally Posted by xiao_yunxi

thanks a lot!

xiao_yunxi · Jun 1st, 2008, 15:11

hi,dear fish,nice to know you!i can understand you very well,surely it is not very easy for me to stay so far away with my parents,beacuse i am also a single child of them.that is the main problem.here life in mumbai is not bad at all,i shifted here in 2006,now i am enjoy life here.and this year i am happy that i get to know another chindia couples in city.
fish,by the way,different must be there no matter you are in india or china,but if love there,then everything will be fine,right?i can say that i am happy with him anywhere,and our parents are also happy to know our happy marriage.

so all the best to you and waitting for your good news!

smilingfish · Jun 1st, 2008, 19:19

Thank you Yunxi for your kind advice and reply! Yes you are right, i belive as long the two person love eachother, they could always managed to adjust for each other and leads to an happy ending. let's see how things goes, and hopefull to meet you in India in the near future :-)

Quote:

Originally Posted by xiao_yunxi

hi,dear fish,nice to know you!i can understand you very well,surely it is not very easy for me to stay so far away with my parents,beacuse i am also a single child of them.that is the main problem.here life in mumbai is not bad at all,i shifted here in 2006,now i am enjoy life here.and this year i am happy that i get to know another chindia couples in city.
fish,by the way,different must be there no matter you are in india or china,but if love there,then everything will be fine,right?i can say that i am happy with him anywhere,and our parents are also happy to know our happy marriage.

so all the best to you and waitting for your good news!

xiaojie · Jun 7th, 2008, 08:19

Ni Hao ladies..!!

Good to see chinese people in Mumbai. I am Indian , now living in Guangdong.

Would like to meet you up on my next visit to Mumbai..primarily to practise my putonghua & to play mahjong..)))

Smiling fish, where are you located in China?

pre123 · Jun 12th, 2008, 23:36

Hi sarah - Ni Hao
Very happy to see you in my Girlfriends situation

Can u guide me (my chinese girlfriend) to get through all difficulties?

right now she is in china and im in India
can u give ur suggestions?

pre123 · Jun 12th, 2008, 23:46

Ni Hao chinese paangyos

Wuo from Chennai
My chinese Girlfriend coming to meet me in chennai by next three months
Is anybody in chennai or near?
Can u help me and my girl to be together in our life?
Right now myself and she have no ideas of what to do for our future
We dont know how we are going to make it to come true
I felt very happy to hear about chindian couples here
Is anybody there in chennai or nearby?
Can u help us? of all things from family to country problems?
Especially Xiao jie and Xiao yunxi?

Oct 27th, 2007, 20:51	#78
machadinha Not Your Guru Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: yörp Posts: 10,505	I think OP only added that paragraph later, after the Capt. had already written his reply. It originally sounded like she was the subject of it indeed. Googling around some this is what the law seems to address, and there seem to be plenty of complaints about its abuse (many by men and their families, apparently, go figure). In any case, sounds to me like BF may be caught up in something like that, and OP is trying to come to grips with the ramifications. No judgments from me on this one... Except to wish OP well no matter what. __________________ Reading tips, all picked up at IndiaMike : INDAX's A Comprehensive Guide To India / Dinoj Surendran's Desi Humor / ITHVC on Culture Shock & Travel Health / JetLag Travel Guides For the Undiscerning Traveller / India Travel Links

May 10th, 2008, 13:09	#80
bittersweet511 Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: India Posts: 1	Indian Chinese relationships! Hey Sarah! Im an indian girl who is currently dating a chinese boy! i was wondering if you could give me some more insight on your relationship! thankyou

May 30th, 2008, 01:12	#83
Nick-H Loud-mouthed, Noisy Bird Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Chennai, India Posts: 26,749	Yunxi, welcome to Indiamike.com __________________ . Just one member of the IndiaMike Mod Team

Jun 12th, 2008, 23:36	#89
pre123 Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Chennai Posts: 5	This is For Sarah Hi sarah - Ni Hao Very happy to see you in my Girlfriends situation Can u guide me (my chinese girlfriend) to get through all difficulties? right now she is in china and im in India can u give ur suggestions?

Jun 12th, 2008, 23:46	#90
pre123 Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Chennai Posts: 5	To Xiao jie and Xiao yunxi Ni Hao chinese paangyos Wuo from Chennai My chinese Girlfriend coming to meet me in chennai by next three months Is anybody in chennai or near? Can u help me and my girl to be together in our life? Right now myself and she have no ideas of what to do for our future We dont know how we are going to make it to come true I felt very happy to hear about chindian couples here Is anybody there in chennai or nearby? Can u help us? of all things from family to country problems? Especially Xiao jie and Xiao yunxi?

Oct 30th, 2007, 20:15	#79
Sarah_KK Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Universe Posts: 8	Actually he told me right at the beginning when we first met 2 yrs ago. Of course i knew about his case but just didn't know it's called 498a. Check this URL" http://saveindianfamily.org/ May be i will start a new thread of this topic. Cos it is getting very detour from my orginal questions. Thanks for everyone's input. Really thanks.

May 17th, 2008, 11:04	#81
xiaojie Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: China Posts: 86	Hi Nicole/ Sarah, I have 2 Indian male friends (one from North India) who are married to Local chinese..& currently working in Beijing I am a Indian national now in South China...How about a India mike meet up in BEI in june??

Jun 1st, 2008, 15:11	#86
xiao_yunxi Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: mumbai Posts: 11	hi,dear fish,nice to know you!i can understand you very well,surely it is not very easy for me to stay so far away with my parents,beacuse i am also a single child of them.that is the main problem.here life in mumbai is not bad at all,i shifted here in 2006,now i am enjoy life here.and this year i am happy that i get to know another chindia couples in city. fish,by the way,different must be there no matter you are in india or china,but if love there,then everything will be fine,right?i can say that i am happy with him anywhere,and our parents are also happy to know our happy marriage. so all the best to you and waitting for your good news!

Jun 7th, 2008, 08:19	#88
xiaojie Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: China Posts: 86	Ni Hao ladies..!! Good to see chinese people in Mumbai. I am Indian , now living in Guangdong. Would like to meet you up on my next visit to Mumbai..primarily to practise my putonghua & to play mahjong..))) Smiling fish, where are you located in China?

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