housemate from hell & police question

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Dilliwala

Get him locked up. Serious. If he actually kills the next roommate, will u be then telling yourself - I shud have reported him?

wondersalve

is threatening to kill someone even a crime in india? i've observed many indians threatening to kill each other over the years, mostly in altercations in the streets.

actually i think he's especially angry because i "rejected" him. in fact when we first met after i left he said "so you don't like me anymore. well i don't care!" the death threats followed. pathetic, really.

Ouzodave

This is an interesting story. How did you get yourself entangled with such a fellow? Where did this happen? What's the story behind it all? Pray tell?

Aishah

I think more trouble than its worth to do anything about him - give the phone and SIM (can't see that a problem if its in his name) to someone else to deliver it to him. Count your losses and keep out of his way. If you are continuing to stay in your place put all his gear out to a neighbours' and change the locks.
I'm not clear if you've chosen yourself to go elsewhere in the meantime. If he causes a fracas then call the police. Frankly, I would keep well clear of him - he sounds a nightmare.

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wondersalve

sadest thing is, i found an unspoiled quiet little town i really love in goa, with people i really like (both locals and expats). it's a place i was thinking of coming back to for 6 months every year, and now i can't even hang out there. maybe next year. of course he might be back (or never leave?) as well now that he knows he can get 90ml feni shots for 5 rupees. but on the other hand i have no doubt he is well on his way to burning more

bridges even as we speak. one local who doesn't speak much english described him to me as "half nice, half mental" before this incident even occured. impressive assessment. wish i had really listened.

the guy seemed nice enough when i first met him. very sociable. bragged that he hadn't had a drink for months. found out why the hard way. he was always fond of saying "i don't care who you are, when you drink, you become an arsehole."

he forgot to mention that starting out one doesn't hurt either.

and he's a cheap bastard, so he won't have any drugs if the police raid him... i found that he exclusively "shares" other peoples drugs. and food. and just about anything else he can get his hands on.

sorry, now i am just ranting.

Aishah

You have to put all this behind you wondersalve, and move on. Number 1 is to look after yourself and your girlfriend. This fellow is nothing but bad news unfortunately - avoid him like the plague.

Ouzodave

Where is the town then? I want some of that Feni!!!!

Dilliwala

I'm sure threats are issued around the world every second, how are distinctions made of which ones are meant and which not? When does one take a threat seriously? When one's beaten half to death?
I frankly don't think from what u describe that he wud really try to kill u, except when he's drunk when anything cud happen. Point is, do u want to live in fear as long as u are there? If YOU believe u are really in danger, what else matters? Talk to the cops. Better still, try and get a local who u trust to go with u to the cops. Or talk to a lawyer. YOU believe u really are in danger, and that's all that matters the way I see it.

It's all very well for people to be advising u to cut your losses and stay away from him, but what if he finds u again? And who shud have the free run in future of this nice little place u've found, u or him?

wondersalve

ran into him today. on a beach, neither his nor mine, but by dumb bad luck, there we both were, along with my girlfriend. as always, i was calm and reasonable. i suggested we meet with a neutral third party (a local we both know) the next day and i could give him the phone. he insisted that, no, i should come to his house (which is of course MY HOUSE, since i paid for it) and he would give me my money (just his half of the rent, nothing more, and i'm sure he actually wouldn't when i got there). said something about me "needing to be a man". then he demanded to follow us home. i told him that wasn't going to happen. then he demanded to know where i was staying, and when i refused to share he asked me to fight then and there on the beach. a fairly crowded beach. that's how unstable he is. i walked away with the girlfriend. he was fuming, but fortunately he didn't follow. i think he will start swinging soon. he is really losing it, or he's trying to make me think he has. girlfriend went home tonight, which is a relief. now it's just him and me.

i will be giving his phone to a third party tomorrow (not stupid enough to meet him on his turf alone), but i feel like more needs to be done. this guy needs a lesson. i will share this story with my well connected local friends. perhaps they have options....

it's not about the money anymore. it's about a bully getting his due. it's about making sure he thinks twice before pulling this sh*t again with someone else.

unfortunately he suffers from such self-delusion i am not sure that any lesson can be learned. i think he actually considers himself the wronged party. he has the house, the money, and will have the phone and the sim card i paid for tomorrow, and i've been run out of town, yet somehow HE has been wronged.

i have been reminded of an important lesson. never underestimate the human capacity for self-delusion. and irrational emotion. at least i'm not back in the USA. then he'd have a damn gun.

wondersalve

and thanks to all of you for your input. (except maybe the guy who told me i had stolen a phone )

for those of you who would like to experience this wonderful little town/beach, it is g_a_l_g_i_b_a_g (avoiding search engines i hope?) in south goa. keep it on the downlow though. i walked there one day from the monstrosity that is palolem, and instantly fell in love with the place, and was determined to live there for a while. oh well.

Ouzodave

I am still intrigued how you came to be with this fellow

Anders

I ain't no layer and you can call it what you want but the reality is that you have something that belongs to someone else. Honestly I would not worry much about this guy, you ran in to him on the beach and he let you walk away, sounds like a lot of hot air but no balls. If I had run into you on the beach and you had stolen something from me, you would have no balls either.
/Anders -- who really dislikes thieves but would at the moment plead guilty to PUI

wondersalve

did you read the original post? did you understand the phone arrangement? do you realize he has stolen more from me than his phone is worth? do you realize that i'm giving it back to him, but that i almost certainly won't get anything he's stolen from me?

i've never stolen a damn thing in my life. i really dislike theives too. but i dislike bully theives even more.

and i like justice a lot.

rajiveanand

Just kick the guy in the nuts real hard and tell him - "This is what you get when you fuck a stranger in the ass!"

... They peed on your rug, Dude.



Seriously, fuck the 2G rupees and get out of town.

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