Customer trying to set me up

Aishah · Feb 15th, 2008, 13:38

OP's 'current girlfriend' (mythical) can be in another country, State etc. Not necessarily in the same city. It sounds from OP that the COO or whoever, the HR Head seem to be in different locations anyway. Shouldn't be too much of a problem.
Lot of love (lust) going on at first sight in the world!!!

MangoKulfi · Feb 15th, 2008, 13:41

Quote:

Originally Posted by Aishah

OP's 'current girlfriend' (mythical) can be in another country, State etc. Not necessarily in the same city. It sounds from OP that the COO or whoever, the HR Head seem to be in different locations anyway. Shouldn't be too much of a problem.
Lot of love (lust) going on at first sight in the world!!!

Now that could work.

I thought with the HR trying to introduce the girl to the OP that they might be in the same location or nearby at least. But could be a 'photo' introduction.

MangoKulfi · Feb 15th, 2008, 13:44

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Originally Posted by Nick-H

He isn't talking about pleasure --- he's talking about marriage!

capt_mahajan · Feb 15th, 2008, 14:44

Hey! The girl can lust too, you know.

Nick-H · Feb 15th, 2008, 14:48

Here's an idea for the OP: tell your colleague that your parents have just informed you that they have someone in mind for you!

I'm sure he will be very satisfied with this

If the subject of your continuing non-marriage arises later, it can be shrugged off by saying that the girl was not suitable...

Captain_Neel · Feb 15th, 2008, 14:52

Weired stuffs!!
IMHO being direct is better than diplomatic in such matters.
Tomorrow COO may try to _help_ again in some other matters. Close it now.

Nick-H · Feb 15th, 2008, 14:54

Good point.

brishti · Feb 15th, 2008, 17:46

INDJUN!!!

first, all of us at IM are trying to get you 'socially' active in bangalore - and now you have one in lil bows an ribbons right on your doorstep!!!

be careful what you wish for indjun - be careful!!!

about your present quandry:
i agree with captain neel

nip it in the bud... swift and clean. i doubt they'd hold it against you if you tell them - 'i am not wanting to get married right now... very kind of you, i am most touched with your concern, but no thank you'.

do not meet 'her' - just in case you do lust for her - you WILL HAVE to tie the knot. if she lust's for you [and it aint reciprocal] you will need more than IM to help you out there!!!

:brishti

Sailaway · Feb 15th, 2008, 19:20

Indjun,

I have a sister-in-law in India who is still single

Indjun · Feb 15th, 2008, 19:44

Folks, thanks for your responses. I think I will just have to find a way to be polite and refuse. I don't want to tell them I have someone, cause I will be making efforts to meet folks there and if they should ever see me with different women over the course of the year, they will wonder.

But I am a bit curious...

Nick-H · Feb 15th, 2008, 20:02

Well... you've got to meet someone somehow!

brishti · Feb 15th, 2008, 20:56

horrendously cliched i know

- but you DOOO know what curiosity did to the tom cat doncha now indjun???

:brishti

trvl_in · Feb 16th, 2008, 00:34

It's time to brush up on your Oscar Wilde with a dusting of Machiavelli. Take trivialities with the utmost of seriousness while treating earnestly important matters with a light touch. Demand with tyrannical ferocity that your friends reveal who does their hair while laughing off the matchmaking.

Done with aplomb (and a bit of luck), you can get them backed off of your private life while keeping them as friends and colleagues.

Prashant.M · Feb 18th, 2008, 14:57

Quote:

Originally Posted by trvl_in

It's time to brush up on your Oscar Wilde with a dusting of Machiavelli. Take trivialities with the utmost of seriousness while treating earnestly important matters with a light touch. Demand with tyrannical ferocity that your friends reveal who does their hair while laughing off the matchmaking.

Done with aplomb (and a bit of luck), you can get them backed off of your private life while keeping them as friends and colleagues.

This I got to try!

Kingstonian · Feb 21st, 2008, 16:27

Hi Indjun

(My comments are based on the recent experience of accompanying, emotionally-speaking, a UK-based Hindu friend on a 2-3 year journey towards an arranged marriage)

I wonder if you play up your point about REALLY wanting to get to know the girl first, slightly(?) emphasising your Miami/US/?"Western" background ... any suggested introductions might just quietly cease?

But good luck if you do find your life's partner, in the meantime.

Feb 15th, 2008, 13:38	#16
Aishah She-who-must-be-obeyed! Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Jaisalmer Posts: 5,354	OP's 'current girlfriend' (mythical) can be in another country, State etc. Not necessarily in the same city. It sounds from OP that the COO or whoever, the HR Head seem to be in different locations anyway. Shouldn't be too much of a problem. Lot of love (lust) going on at first sight in the world!!! __________________ "Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards."

Feb 15th, 2008, 14:48	#20
Nick-H Loud-mouthed, Noisy Bird Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Chennai, India Posts: 27,644	Here's an idea for the OP: tell your colleague that your parents have just informed you that they have someone in mind for you! I'm sure he will be very satisfied with this If the subject of your continuing non-marriage arises later, it can be shrugged off by saying that the girl was not suitable... __________________ . Just one member of the IndiaMike Mod Team

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