Unsolicited Private Messages and Emails

bijapuri · Apr 24th, 2005, 13:46

I wouldn't concern myself with just the single Mr's in the fair city of Delhi

beach · Apr 24th, 2005, 14:47

what about if an (I)Mr receives 'such' messages from (I)Mrs...??

Paagla Dashu · Apr 25th, 2005, 04:15

What about the links (to other websites) on this page? Are they safe to click on?

Or will that result in unwanted solicitation, albeit "authorised".

machadinha · Apr 25th, 2005, 06:28

I'm sure the moderators here know best but I can confirm that most of the PMs I've gotten here were either from new members or from generally silent members. So far no indecent proposals (

) Maybe those people are just shy about speaking in public, or don't really get the forum function, or whatever. It's something to take into account before you curb the PM options I guess.

btw If PM's are public matter to the mods then maybe put up a disclaimer to that effect with the PM function? Maybe there is one, I hadn't noticed it before.

indiamike · Apr 25th, 2005, 07:00

Quote:

Originally Posted by machadinha

btw If PM's are public matter to the mods then maybe put up a disclaimer to that effect with the PM function? Maybe there is one, I hadn't noticed it before.

Pm's are not public to the mods and I am the only one with access to the database where they are stored. It is extremely rare that a users pm account would be viewed by me and it would be because of complaints or an enormous amount of pm's in a short time.

....if someone sends 50 pm's in one day it's cause for an alarm.

machadinha · Apr 25th, 2005, 07:12

Quote:

Originally Posted by indiamike

Pm's are not public to the mods and I am the only one with access to the database where they are stored. It is extremely rare that a users pm account would be viewed by me and it would be because of complaints or an enormous amount of pm's in a short time.

....if someone sends 50 pm's in one day it's cause for an alarm.

Thanx for the clarification. I wasn't accusing you of anything, it's just that it came up on this thread.

Keep up the good work!

Nick-H · Apr 25th, 2005, 08:06

I remember a night (GMT) a few months ago when IM was being spammed. Suddenly I had dozens of PMs, (I guess everyone did and every thread I looked at had crap posted to it. Mike put up a "Closed for Housekeeping" sign and in the morning it was all gone. I suppose the techinique for cleaning up would be something like a 'delete where userid=spammer', which is 'accessing' mail boxes, but not exactly personally.

I suppose this must happen to every public site sometimes, and especially the nicer ones. Niceness just seems to annoy some people!

NostalgicIndian · Apr 25th, 2005, 08:40

Quote:

Originally Posted by natasha chanda acharya

After a rather unplesant incident in one of the Bangalore IM meets, i am a bit apprehensive about allowing men who have 2 or 3 or 5 posts to their credit. But when they want to join in, i can't possibly refuse. For all you know they are perfectly decent people, and then you could turn out to be a sleez even after 50 posts. How should I (and sudheer) handle this?

And i must add, i totally agree with Nick, most of us patronise this site because its so clean and genuine. All credit to moderators for doing such a good job.

For starters, I would refrain from using real name and pics. to post on the board. I know it may not be a big problem in India, but here in U.S. chances of someone being a serial killer or sex offender or psycho is much higher.
I'd say NEVER meet up any one from a chat/forum site alone and in non-public place. Always meet up in a group of people you already know.
And, if you are a lady, do not post your pic. in the public profile. There is no scarcity of pervs in this world.
My 2 cents.

Maz 1979 · Apr 25th, 2005, 18:04

Quote:

Originally Posted by NostalgicIndian

And, if you are a lady, do not post your pic. in the public profile. There is no scarcity of pervs in this world.

I should explain but i am the horse in my profile pic, not sure who the lady is......

Judi · Apr 25th, 2005, 18:32

Dream on, Beach ..............!!

indiamike · Apr 26th, 2005, 06:13

Quote:

Originally Posted by Paagla Dashu

IMta ekta mathamota, pechhonpaka.

Well done IM!

Keep it up.

Doesn't this translate to "IM is a fatheaded smartass!"

Hey there is probably some truth there, however i don't come to your house to insult you.

If the sites not for you then don't visit it. Seriously.

Paagla Dashu · Apr 26th, 2005, 07:17

No, actually they do not exactly mean what you presume. It depends a lot on the tone thats used. In the part of India (where the sentence comes from), the sentence is used frequently to describe a precocious adamant child in an adoring manner. Literal translation can come close to your interpretation but thats not correct and that was not the intention.

In any case, apologies if it has offended anyone - and I have deleted the post.

Om Shanti

sticky · Apr 26th, 2005, 08:07

Why not have a shame list, it would work for travel agents anyway. if a travel agent repeatedly sends spam, they could have their business details posted in a public list - the bad press would probably make them think twice about doing it.

steven_ber · Jun 29th, 2005, 16:26

I little bump needed as I just had a complaint.

If you receive any Unsolicited Private Messages or E-mails that you are unsure of, send a private message to me or any of the other moderators, or reply to this thread.

ADVENTUROUS26 · Jun 29th, 2005, 16:28

kudossssssssss IM

Apr 24th, 2005, 13:46	#31
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Apr 25th, 2005, 06:28	#34
machadinha Not Your Guru Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: yörp Posts: 9,172	I'm sure the moderators here know best but I can confirm that most of the PMs I've gotten here were either from new members or from generally silent members. So far no indecent proposals ( ) Maybe those people are just shy about speaking in public, or don't really get the forum function, or whatever. It's something to take into account before you curb the PM options I guess. btw If PM's are public matter to the mods then maybe put up a disclaimer to that effect with the PM function? Maybe there is one, I hadn't noticed it before. __________________ Reading tips, all picked up at IndiaMike : INDAX's A Comprehensive Guide To India / Dinoj Surendran's Desi Humor / ITHVC on Culture Shock & Travel Health / JetLag Travel Guides For the Undiscerning Traveller / India Travel Links

Apr 25th, 2005, 08:06	#37
Nick-H Loud-mouthed, Noisy Bird Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Chennai, India Posts: 24,220	I remember a night (GMT) a few months ago when IM was being spammed. Suddenly I had dozens of PMs, (I guess everyone did and every thread I looked at had crap posted to it. Mike put up a "Closed for Housekeeping" sign and in the morning it was all gone. I suppose the techinique for cleaning up would be something like a 'delete where userid=spammer', which is 'accessing' mail boxes, but not exactly personally. I suppose this must happen to every public site sometimes, and especially the nicer ones. Niceness just seems to annoy some people! __________________ . IndiaMike Mod Team (The Grumpy One)

Apr 26th, 2005, 08:07	#43
sticky Dismembered Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: I dreamed, I quit, I left..... now finally in India :) Posts: 318	Why not have a shame list, it would work for travel agents anyway. if a travel agent repeatedly sends spam, they could have their business details posted in a public list - the bad press would probably make them think twice about doing it. __________________ ->->->->->->->->->->->->->->->->->->->-> Flashpackers: Backpackers doing it in style.

Jun 29th, 2005, 16:26	#44
steven_ber Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: London, England. Posts: 8,586	I little bump needed as I just had a complaint. If you receive any Unsolicited Private Messages or E-mails that you are unsure of, send a private message to me or any of the other moderators, or reply to this thread. __________________ . How to get helpful replies to your transport/Itinerary questions. Train information.

Apr 24th, 2005, 14:47	#32
beach Lost in translation Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: India Posts: 2,230	what about if an (I)Mr receives 'such' messages from (I)Mrs...??

Apr 25th, 2005, 04:15	#33
Paagla Dashu Unreasonably Unreasonable Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Where They Wear Clogs Posts: 1,223	What about the links (to other websites) on this page? Are they safe to click on? Or will that result in unwanted solicitation, albeit "authorised".

Apr 25th, 2005, 18:32	#40
Judi Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: England Posts: 459	Dream on, Beach ..............!!

Apr 26th, 2005, 07:17	#42
Paagla Dashu Unreasonably Unreasonable Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Where They Wear Clogs Posts: 1,223	No, actually they do not exactly mean what you presume. It depends a lot on the tone thats used. In the part of India (where the sentence comes from), the sentence is used frequently to describe a precocious adamant child in an adoring manner. Literal translation can come close to your interpretation but thats not correct and that was not the intention. In any case, apologies if it has offended anyone - and I have deleted the post. Om Shanti

Jun 29th, 2005, 16:28	#45
ADVENTUROUS26 Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: BANGALORE Posts: 23	kudossssssssss IM __________________ There are 2 kinds of light, the glow that illuminates and the glare that obscures...

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