[Bigzero]

I agree somnath, rather than having a blanket rule , let the person receiving the PMs judge...

[somnath]

Yes Big’Zee’,
And the date of joining will also help us to judge not only the no of posts. There could be no of members who are senior as per the joining date on this forum but with minimum posts. So it would be better to get back to Mike after receiving any spurious PM or e-mail.

- Somnath

[steven_ber]

Don't let the amount of posts a member has made be any kind of guide; we recently banned a very nasty member who had hundreds of posts (in a very short time).

We need people to report unwanted PM's, a member contacted us and told about a travel agent trying to get business via PM, the travel agents PM's were checked and they had sent over 50 similar messages, yet only one person reported it.

The moderators often check the 'who's online' part of the site, on a few occasions we see a member with no posts sending PM's to females who have posted in the 'travel partners' section, when we check the posts of the members receiving the PM's, we find that they are going to different parts of India at different times of the year, I know what that tells me, but these PM's are not reported.

Mike will not check any members PM's unless he has very good cause.

So report, report, report.

[SHIMLA]

Mike and Steven are asking you to report UNSOLICITED PMs - these are PMs usually from travel agents who wish to sell you their service; and not from those who wish to ask you for information. In a similar category would fall PMs from someone asking about your travel plans and wanting to hook up with you, especially from a male member to a female member.

Hence please report such PMs and help in keeping the forum clean. Help us to help you!

[PRIYA]

Originally Posted by natasha chanda acharya

After a rather unplesant incident in one of the Bangalore IM meets, i am a bit apprehensive about allowing men who have 2 or 3 or 5 posts to their credit. But when they want to join in, i can't possibly refuse. For all you know they are perfectly decent people, and then you could turn out to be a sleez even after 50 posts. How should I (and sudheer) handle this?

And i must add, i totally agree with Nick, most of us patronise this site because its so clean and genuine. All credit to moderators for doing such a good job.

At least the IM meets aren't a just one on one basis. There seems to be quite a few people who arrange to meet, so you're relatively safe, especially if you've met 1 or 2 of the IMers before. Women are always too trusting - I think, that's why we're faced with unpleasant incidents.

I think it's a great idea with the PM's - this is a wonderful site and it'd be a pity to be invaded by unwanted/unsolicited mails. Thanks IM - for keeping up a high standard.

I must admit to having used the PM section, but didn't think it was a relevant post or of any interest to anyone else in the forum. Guess maybe I was also a lil shy . It's good to know that we'll ALL have some sort of protection from the 'baddies' out there!!!!

[Nick-H]

I think that the word 'unwanted' is implied along with the unsolicited.

Whereas my public email from unknown sources is treated as probably spam, any PM here is treated as probably interesting: and almost always is! But then it also almost always arises fom mutual contributions to a thread.

Of course If I changed my profile to read 'female, 19' I might well have an entirely different experience.

[Digital Drifter]

Originally Posted by Nick-H

[...]
Of course If I changed my profile to read 'female, 19' I might well have an entirely different experience.

<quickly scribbles something down>

You're under observation. You're warned..........

[Nick-H]

Oh god, it's that kinky secret policeman again :whoa:

[skell]

I haven't received any suspicious PMs. What's wrong with me that strange, horny men aren't interested?

[-m2-]

Here's a PM I received last September. Perhaps she assumed that I am unusally stupid after reading a few posts, or maybe just because my name was first on the member list:

______________________________ ____________________

Partnership & Investment
Dear Friend,

It gives me great pleasure to contact you, and I do hope
this letter will not come to you as a surprise. I am Mrs.
Mariam. H. Abacha, (widow of the former Nigerian
MilitaryPresident/Head of State) who died mysteriously as a
result of heart attack in the year 1998. I decided to
contact you so that we can arrange with you for favorable
terms of trade and the possibility of moving some family
funds, to your possession.

Since the death of my husband, our family and close friends
have not been allowed to move freely by the present
civilian Government in Nigeria, because of the enemity
thatexisted between the late Gen. Abacha and the present
civilian President/Head of State of Nigeria.Consequently
our joint bank accounts here in Nigeria and abroad have
been frozen in a very wicked manner, since the Government
discovered the accounts.

You may wish to know that right now our US$45Million lodged
with Swiss in Zurich and Geneva has been frozen since
October 1999. Another of our US$60Million with a bank in
Luxembourg was blocked within April/May 2000. We also lost
another US$10Million lodged with a bank in the small
country of Liechtenstein.Our account with over US$70Million
in a Brazilian bank was frozen in 1999, another of our
joint accounts with DM45Million in a Germany based bank
account were all frozen in 1999.This has made our family to
have lost over US$2Billion to the Government.

All these loses was mainly due to the fact that we
mistakenly operated these account with Abacha's family
names and with our personal business names which made
itpossible for them to locate our funds easily in those
banks. For partnership purpose, we decided to contact you
in confidence to inform you that we have in our possession
the certificates of the deposits made by my late husband,
which were funds that were secretly moved out of the
country. These funds involve a total cash sum of US$25.5M
(Twenty-Five Million, Five Hundred Thousand United States
Dollars only).Which were hidden, and packaged in two
(2)metal boxes and the boxes are presently being kept with
a Security Deposit House as Family Treasure and the
certificate of Deposit of the Treasures is in our
possession .

We are appealing for urgent assistance to come down to the
security company and claim this fund then move the fund to
your country/private or company bank account or any country
where you believe the fund will be safe. we will arrange
for our lawyer to meet with you for the conclusion of the
transaction.You can contact me and my son (Mr. Abba Abacha)
through the e-mail address this our private email address:
mari_abba@moronsunlimited.com .... upon receipt of your response
we shall arrange for a face-to-face meeting with our family
lawyer who is our business consultant for a successful
completion of the transaction.

You can go through this website for the current information,
for you to see how the present goverment of my country are
doing everything possible to have all properties belonging to
my late husband both land and money confisticated and this
was due to the disagreement between my late husband when he
was alive and present President of my country;

http://www.xxxxx

We have agreed to offer you 10% of US$25.5M for your
immense asststance to us and 5% goes for exepensis you may
likely incurred during the process of execution; like phone
call, travelling, and clearing charges of the consignment,
while you will hold 85% on TRUST for us as we would like to
do a good business investment in your country and also
invest in your company's line of product/business.

Your full name and address,your private tel/fax numbers are
required. Please you are required to treat this letter as
very confidential as no other person knows about this money
except me, my son (Abba), your very self and our family
lawyer Looking forward to hearing from you as soon as
possible and May God bless you as you help us at this
difficult time.

Yours Sincerely,

Mrs. Mariam.H Abacha.

NOTE:Your full name and address and your private tel/fax
numbers are required urgently. Please do respond through
this our private email address: mari_abba@moronsunlimited.com

______________________________ ___

Despite my great sympathy for the Abacha family and their loss of $2 billion of embezzeled funds, I decided to give the offer a miss.

m2


(edit: e-mail address altered. gotcha jj )

[jjacquemain]

Funny M2, it seems ironic that the email has the word Moron in it......It seems like such a great deal!!

[-m2-]

I should have mentioned that I altered the actual e-mail address. (In case someone was tempted

[jjacquemain]

Doh!

[SHIMLA]

"The former Nigerian Military President/Head of State died mysteriously as a
result of heart attack "!!

At least they should have tried to sound serious in their mail !!

[SHIMLA]

I have received a few such E-mails on my personal ID; and before the usual blah blah one was kind enough to explain that since my surname matched the surname of the dead, they assumed I was the next heir !! How considerate!!