Why does India Mike tolerate some sexist posts?

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#1 Apr 25th, 2014, 18:06
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Why is this this forum so sexist?

It is apparently OK for dirty old men to post smutty jokes, advise each other on getting trophy wives and discuss Viagra.

On the other hand I ask a couple of questions relating to sexual health and get called a troll, propositioned by PM and generally treated like a second class citizen. Another female poster recently wanted to swim without being leered at and she was given the same sort of treatment.

Female posters seem to be in the minority here but why do we have to put up with such blatant discrimination?

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#2 Apr 25th, 2014, 18:13
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I guess the women on the forum will be best placed to comment on how sexist Indiamike is. As far as the PM propositioning is concerned, I hope you reported it to the moderators.
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Originally Posted by capt_mahajan View Post As far as the PM propositioning is concerned, I hope you reported it to the moderators.
Thank you. I did report it and the person concerned had their account closed.

However the general boys club atmosphere on the forum seems to make some people think that it is alright to do that sort of thing.

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#4 Apr 25th, 2014, 18:20
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That is incorrect, you know. There may be a cliquey atmosphere here, but, if anything, it is an old-member (ok Nick, established member ) cliquey atmosphere, I think, regardless of sex. But I wait for more women to respond.

And I know that the moderators take 'that sort of thing' quite seriously.
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In case you find any post or joke offensive please report it.
Deliberately inflammatory posts are deleted and posters are warned/banned.
Other than that - banter is welcome. If you find a post offensive, please report it.
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Originally Posted by nayan View Post Ruby,
In case you find any post or joke offensive please report it.
Deliberately inflammatory posts are deleted and posters are warned/banned.
Other than that - banter is welcome. If you find a post offensive, please report it.
But that doesn't always work. There was one guy who is still a member making posts in response to mine that were quite scary. I reported them and just got ignored.

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The mod team looks into each reported post thoroughly. They then take a decision
As I said - harmless banter is welcome. Any offensive posts will be dealt with
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So maybe the mod team are part of the boys club. Most of the mods appear to be male.

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I do not think that forum is sexist at all, and though I do not personally like smutty jokes, I doubt that they would stay for long if the intention is to be sexist.

However there are some tell tale signs when a post is not taken seriously, which sometimes is detrimental to genuine posters, but that cannot be avoided on an open forum.

Taking your example, I replied to one of your posts as it was clear you have a one way street of thoughts when talking about India, that it is pathetic, and I will either ignore your further posts on the issue or be more stinging. Would I have replied with such disdain if you had just mentioned your views in a normal way instead of posting them all over, absolutely not.

I have not read other threads you have posted on, but do ponder about the fact that discussions on open forum can get nasty, for both men and women, a strong post will usually have a strong replies, an idiotic post will be ridiculed for fun etc. It is in no way sexist, and if it is, then it is for both ways.
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Hmmm... I might be wrong, but I seem to remember a good deal of good-natured banter which you did not object to at the time.

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... discussions on open forum can get nasty, for both men and women, a strong post will usually have a strong replies, an idiotic post will be ridiculed for fun etc. It is in no way sexist, and if it is, then it is for both ways.
And this is one of the gentlest, friendliest places on the internet. There are, I'm told, places that seem to specialise in real bully tactics and causing substantial mental and emotional pain.
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I don't find this forum sexist at all.

The moderating team is balanced, with several very active female mods. As a former mod myself, I can assure you that all complaints are taken very seriously indeed.
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Originally Posted by Ruby Tuesday View Post But that doesn't always work. There was one guy who is still a member making posts in response to mine that were quite scary. I reported them and just got ignored.
Any action taken (and if taken) is not published/publicised on the open forum. The fact that you did not see as Account Closed some member that you reported does not mean no action was taken either.
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Originally Posted by Ruby Tuesday View Post But that doesn't always work. There was one guy who is still a member making posts in response to mine that were quite scary. I reported them and just got ignored.
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Originally Posted by narendra.d View Post Any action taken (and if taken) is not published/publicised on the open forum. The fact that you did not see as Account Closed some member that you reported does not mean no action was taken either.
And just to add to what narendra said, we (mods) also do not reply to people who report posts, basically because we don't have time. That does not mean that the report was ignored.

As plenty of people have said including mods (male and female ), if you see an offensive post please report it.

I also agree with Nick and others that this is a very friendly site. Yes it can be a bit cliquey with our in-jokes etc, but I think it would be hard for any site to avoid that. The established members who might be part of these cliques are also friendly and welcoming to newcomers.
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Originally Posted by Ruby Tuesday View Post Why is this this forum so sexist?
Why is this this forum so sexist? - in my perception.
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Originally Posted by Ruby Tuesday View Post Why is this this forum so sexist?
Agree, you'd be amazed at how many times different members refer to peeing in the sink, they're obviously not having a go at females, so they must be sexist.

Joking aside, I'm embarrassed to say that of the more long term members (500+ posts), I know the sex of perhaps 10% of them, I just have no need to check, so, of course I find it amazing to see someone describe indiamike as sexist.

I joke a lot about my partner (who happens to be female), and I'm sure some people could find some of my jokes sexist, but they're not, they're just jokes about my partner, if a female and made jokes about her male partner, I wouldn't find them sexist, maybe this is something to do with British humour.

One of the only times I check the sex of a new member is if I'm about to advise them to do a solo trip in Sleeper Class, and I find having to check really annoying, I feel a lone female would enjoy sleeper class and be safe, but if I dare suggest it, members (normally Indian men) suggest I'm being a little irresponsible with my advice, I surely can't be sexist for giving the same advise to a male or female, so are the members who give different advice depending on sex, are they sexist?
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