western guy Indian girl?

Ikuru

Hey. It occured to me, when Ive been to India most of the time I will never be aproached by any girl/woman only by men, the honest truth is in loads of Indian towns you actually only SEE the Men. where is the ladies? and finally. What would happen If I was to try dating or even just talking to a Indian girl on the street? Would I be in trouble? Would she? Is she probaly in a aranged mariage and am I not good enough for her (according to her fammely). What is the value of a westerner in the mind of a Indian when it comes down to the core? Is it that we dont understand the culture etc?

Maybe this thread sounds a bit weird, but I dont intend that, I only try to understand what am I really to Indians, how they see me. And what is the culture clash really about? If there is one.

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oldhippie

Dude...I think you might be hanging out in the wrong places
Its easy to get hooked up with women in most major cities these days. Being a "Westerner" does make it easier. You will get comments from local men but just ignore them. Most women I meet prefer overseas Indians or Western men as they find the local men to be chauvinistic, abusive and in many cases a waste of time.

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LonelyBoyUSA

I think the case is that when you're in smaller towns, the women tend to be more shy and especially of foreign men. But I have had no problems with women in the larger cities. Some of my good friends are women in India. I even got proposed.

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Merchant

Women outside the big cities, those in small towns, won't talk to you--it's improper.

radz

Ikuru:
Check it out this thread.

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indiadreamn

Did you accept?!

getgopi1

If you see two or more girls in a cafe or something, by all means, go over and greet them. From my experience in India the last couple of times I was there (briefly), the middle and upper class Indian women in larger cities seemed to have become more "worldly". In other words, they didn't seem to have as many hangups as the guys did. This is consistent with the old notion that women are more patient while guys demand closure. (Cr*p. There I go again..philosophizing )

Anyway, when I was in Madurai (my hometown), sometimes a single woman (going the other way) would put a book or something across her face and look slightly down and away. But...when I went to a bakery with a buddy of mine, there were a bunch of girls in there that immediately perked up on seeing us and started conversing in English. It looked like they were trying to attract our attention in a general sort of way but we looked up and away (could have been the thought of sleeping in a cold, musty jail floor for eve-teasing ). I guess we had our own hangups, too I would take a chance in a bigger city such as Chennai but in Madurai...

But someone else in IndiaMike was right. Once you start talking to an Indian girl, you are hooked. It could be those oily black eyes...

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raos

I have been reading all the dating threads with much interest. It seems that most of the men (and the majority seem to be men) posting are making generalizations about the so-called 'Indian woman'. Is there one type? No. The culture of women in villages is vastly different from cultures of women in the cities; the life-style of middle-class/upper middle-class women is very different from poorer women. So, if you are cognizant of the background of the women, the it shouldn't be a problem interacting with them. Having said that, I believe that the reality is that only the middle-class and upper middle-class women will be willing and able to interact with non-Indian men. Someone mentioned that they do not see a lot of women around when they visited India? That is a culture shock coming from the west where men and women walk the streets with some degree of freedom and safety. Most women in India stay at home and don't go outside, except in cases where they are accompanied by their husbands/brothers/fathers. Again, this is not true for every woman of every background.

getgopi1

I will probably draw some flak for this but here goes nothing...I think that as far as women are concerned, it is easy to generalize. There are those women who are not shy to interact with men. There are those women who are curious/wanting but have not the courage to interact with men. And there are those who won't interact with men at all

I am outta here...

edwardseco

Don't go there Ikuru. Women = marriage and the long ride to responsibilities and the fear of not being able to come up with college tuitions..

Bryan

Met an educated woman from Calcutta on one trip who was doing in a mural for a private organisation in Rajisthan. We both had a very strong instant attraction to eachother.
We dated for a while but it was all very cloak and dagger and each of us understood the longevity of the relationship was short and she talked openly how she would eventually be married off sooner rather than later

A special rare woman

Not sure that moves the subject matter along except to say it is possible to meet Indian woman

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getgopi1

Dude, I can relate to you. When I was in high school, there was Meena. We had great conversations since we had to commute by same bus back home (but we would never speak much at school). It was different speaking to a girl. No wasted words, for instance. After high school was over, she was gone...married off to some NRI guy in Malaysia. She had talked off going to college but I guess it never materialized for her...

If you can, rent and watch the recent Tamil movie "Autograph". I heard its being remade in Hindi as well. It contains a lot of what was recently discussed in the "dating" threads here.

ikimasho

is there not ONE indian woman on this forum who can reply to this thread??

i think we need to recruit some!!

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getgopi1

Pssst...I forwarded your request to a couple of Indian girls I know. Maybe they will (register and) respond...

Ikuru

Hmm... well considering the alterantives (celibacy, masturbation and homosexuallety) I will have to say that to be with a Woman that you really like is one of the most important things in my life no matter what the consequences might be...