Unmarried Indian girl with a baby

I need some advice. I'm a foreign male tourist living in Nepal where I've met a young Indian woman (25yo) who just gave birth to a child fathered by her Nepali boyfriend. He now wants nothing to do with her and sadly nor does her family. She's a Delhi wallah but lives in Kathmandu, is well educated, intelligent, a bit naive but totally committed to raising her child alone and so far has refused her mother's request to give the child up for adoption.

We are staying in the same guest house and being distressed and lonely she approached me for help. She has very little money and although obviously from a 'good' family in her present circumstances that doesn't mean much. I mention it just to give her a social context which may help you better understand the situation.

I have no romantic interest in her whatsoever. I like her, consider her a friend, want to help but there's no way I'm going to involve myself emotionally or intimately so marrying her and adopting the child is definitely not an option. I can help her financially up to a point.

She cannot get a birth certificate because her son was born at home not in hospital and the father refuses to have anything to do with the baby and wouldn't put his name on it anyway. This is a significant issue for the child's future but only one of many challenges facing this young lady.

Under the circumstances what's the best way to help? As Indian's what advice would you give? I've already insisted she makes a genuine attempt to reconcile with her family because without their support I don't see how she can survive but who knows if that will work out.

So what do you think?

If she's staying in the guesthouse, where is home where the child was born ?

First step in this modern era is to get a birth certificate issued. It is a key to getting a passport (be it Indian or Nepali)

Babies get born all over the place. Buses... fields... whatever. No certificate if not born in hospital? That sounds wrong: I hope it is!

My best idea on this is to hand it over to the experts. You need some charity or NGO who are used to handling this situation and giving support to the women. Do I have the least idea who or where? None at all --- and probably you thought of this anyway .

A fellow member who just possibly might: sirensongs. I don't know where she is just now (India/Nepal/etc...) and she may not be on this site very often, but a PM will probably reach her.

If she's staying in the guesthouse, where is home where the child was born

In the mothers house in Kathmandu...she was kicked out when she wouldn't give it up for adoption.

First step in this modern era is to get a birth certificate issued. It is a key to getting a passport (be it Indian or Nepali)

Yes I know and so does she.

Babies get born all over the place. Buses... fields... whatever. No certificate if not born in hospital? That sounds wrong: I hope it is!
No doctors were involved, she delivered it herself but whatever the circumstances there's no birth certificate.

My best idea on this is to hand it over to the experts. You need some charity or NGO who are used to handling this situation and giving support to the women. Do I have the least idea who or where? None at all --- and probably you thought of this anyway
Yes and I have some friends looking into it for me so I hope something will come up.

A fellow member who just possibly might: sirensongs. I don't know where she is just now (India/Nepal/etc...) and she may not be on this site very often, but a PM will probably reach her.
Many thanks.

Your charitable instincts are altogether commendable, but please take care.

I've made it clear my capacity to help is limited but it's hard to counteract people's expectations. Your advice is very appropriate so thank you.

You're welcome.

We probably needn't have made our post, since you seem remarkably clear-headed about this, with all your antennae alert to the possibility of a scam. But there have been so many people with such very good intentions who have been hurt in situations like this that we decided we'd be remiss if we didn't hint at the dangers.

Much appreciated. Scam is the first thing that came to mind but I think it's a case of genuine need. If not she could easily make a successful career in Bollywood.

Lungtok

I do not know how to sort it, only just common sense she needs to find a partner.
I do not how to find a husband for her, somebody who will want to be a good father of the child. It is good try to reconcile with her family but nobody choose our families so it could be that her family will reject her.

By the way nice to hear somebody who cares about others.

We have to try and help - it's what makes us human.

All is good. I found this amazing NGO called Womens Foundation of Nepal and they help many girls in similar circumstances. Together we wiil sort things out. www.womenepal.org in case anyone is interested.

You've made such a positive difference in this woman and her child's life, lungtok! Good for you!!

Your a credit to humankind and kindness Lungtok, a big welldone my friend.