Thread ceremony in Mumbai.

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My partner and I have been invited to attend a thread ceremony in Mumbai. We feel hugely honoured and privileged, and more than happy to have this 'excuse' to take 10 days out of our schedule. 10 days isn't much, I know, more like an extended week-end for this 'jet-sweating' couple. It's not our first time in Mumbai, but it's certainly our first thread ceremony, so I'd be glad if anybody can tell us what to expect
Also, for my partner I suppose wearing a formal suit will be fine? But I (western woman) really can't figure out what to wear. A salwar kameez? A pair of white trousers with a blue cotton tunic top? Eastern or western clothes? How festive/formal?
For gift we have decided to give him H.C.Andersen's fairy tales + some money. I read the wedding thread that when giving money it's customary to give Rs. x+1 (sound quite the mathematician here), but is that general for giving money gifts? And in our case, with which amount should we replace the 'x'?
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Not that I'm very well informed about Brahmin culture, but is this a thread ceremony for a young boy?

I'm equally ignorant about Mumbai culture, but I'd suggest that kurta pyjama would go down much better than a formal western suite, if that's what you mean by formal suite. Indian dress all round!

Further than that, I don't know. I didn't make it to the only such event I've been invited to.
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yep, it is for a young boy. I had mine done when i was 15 or something..slightly later than when it should have happened.....

its called (hope i have the spl right) Janau
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Yes, it is a coming of age ceremony. http://www.kamat.com/indica/culture/...red-thread.htm Incidentally, kamat.com is a cornucopia of most things related to Indian culture.
Regarding what to wear our host says to wear whatever we feel comfortable wearing, but even if wearing Indian is the thing to do and generally I feel very comfortable wearing SK, I wouldn't feel comfy if it turns out that the style is too everyday, or something... Oh, the worries of being a woman
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All guests will be wearing festive clothes (silk sarees, salwar khameez for women and western formal or Indian traditional dress by men) for the thread ceremony.

I think any salwar khameez would help you blend in a bit. Suggest you avoid pants and cotton tunic . If your salwar khameez is cotton then you may feel underdressed since the other guests (female) will surely wear either silk sarees or SKs. I completely with you about the "worries of being a woman" hahaha.

About the present-since you are already giving a book, you can either give Rs 100+1 or Rs 250+1 or more if you like. The main amount always has to be any figure with a "zero"- 10, 20, 50, 100and a multiple of 5.

One word abt the weather. It is hot and humid in Mumbai so wearing Indian clothes will be better as you may feel very hot in trousers .
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This is the first strand, yes?

The third strand comes when the boy gets married, I think. Can someone remind me when the second strand is put?
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I've been to one of these ceremonies & most people were wearing salwar suits. The men who were getting their threads wore lungis rolled up.

It's a very good festival to attend and, as a gora, I was very honoured to be asked to attend.

I took lots of photos during the festival (just ask to make sure it's OK with your hosts) and gave copies to the family.

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yep i had to wear a dhoti....!
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I think any salwar khameez would help you blend in a bit. Suggest you avoid pants and cotton tunic .
Thanks so much. Your reply is very very helpful. I think my host and I are having some sort of a politeness battle here. He thinks that we'll feel more comfortable wearing whatever we'd wear on a daily basis, perfect host that he is, and doesn't realise that we'd feel more comfortable knowing that we're not embarrassing him and his family by being dressed inappropriately.

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Originally Posted by waghobha View Post If your salwar khameez is cotton then you may feel underdressed since the other guests (female) will surely wear either silk sarees or SKs.
They are cotton, and furthermore they're far too large for me since I lost about 100 pounds (literally) since I got them, so will have to find a tailor to take them in, if at all possible. I'll be arriving on Saturday morning, and the ceremony is on Wednesday morning. Is it at all realistic to either find a ready made silk SK or have one stitched in those 3-4 days? I'm sorry for asking all these questions, but I really don't want to bother my host with all these questions. They'll be busy with relatives and preparations, I'm sure.

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Originally Posted by waghobha View Post I completely with you about the "worries of being a woman" hahaha.
So nice to know I'm not alone here

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Originally Posted by waghobha View Post One word abt the weather. It is hot and humid in Mumbai so wearing Indian clothes will be better as you may feel very hot in trousers .
Oh, I know (pls. pronounce with your best Sibyl from Falty Towers voice), though my white cotton trousers are made in India. I think my greatest worry where they are concerned is that they will stay white for approx. 3 minutes 27 seconds
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Oh thats brought back some memories...! think ill go watch an episode or two tonight!!


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Originally Posted by Nick-H View Post This is the first strand, yes?

The third strand comes when the boy gets married, I think. Can someone remind me when the second strand is put?
Nick, I believe the vatu gets his first 3 threads here, and another 3 when he gets married, but somebody please correct me if I'm wrong.
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Briped, the janoi ceremony(as per Guju pronunciation) performed here, was a very formal affair. I'm sure you'll have a day or two to spare before the event, to do some shopping for you both. Your hosts will be inwardly delighted that you'll be dressed accordingly.

I'm sure you'll have lots of fun, and find the whole event fulfilling.
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Originally Posted by zoltan View Post The men who were getting their threads wore lungis rolled up.
I'm a bit puzzled here, because the ceremony we'll be attending is for a young boy (8 years old), and as far as I know he's the only boy. I could be mistaken, and I'm not a great expert so that's likely but to me it sounds as if maybe you attended a thread renewal ceremony? http://www.kamat.org/Reel.asp?ReelNo=TTHRED

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Originally Posted by zoltan View Post I took lots of photos during the festival (just ask to make sure it's OK with your hosts) and gave copies to the family.
Was hoping to find some of them in your album, but perhaps they were not suitable for the web? Thanks for sharing. We're thrilled to bits, and can't wait to go

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