The Matrimonials and what they "mean"

Cayle · Jun 26th, 2008, 16:59

Because it is an admission that they could not find someone through their social network, marking them as less desirable; after all if they were desirable, they would have no problems going through social networks.

This is changing however and 20'somethings have no such stigma attached. My cousin met his wife through online personals.

greenasgrass · Jun 26th, 2008, 16:59

Brishti, I agree that it's perfectly understandable, but as marriage is supposed to be borne of a romantic ideal of two people who have fallen in love (or at least, it is in more recent times), it's not very romantic to advertise for a life partner. I think people worried that it suggested that you couldn't find a partner without widening the net or whatever.

In theory (see Sugar Daddies above

)as people no longer marry for money or political connections, they have not had need to advertise for a partner.

Cross-posted: Cayle got there first (and better)...

Nick-H · Jun 26th, 2008, 17:00

Quote:

I know of several couples now happily married or living together who met on internet dating sites and aren't shy about admitting to it.

Me! Me!

Two girl-friends (one remains as friend of, now, many years) and a wife: dating ads and, latterly, internet.

I recall that my GF and I in London were a little coy about admitting that's how we met, but it never seems to elicit any negative response if Mrs N and I say that we met through a matrimonial site. It's become respectable!

brishti · Jun 26th, 2008, 17:11

Quote:

Originally Posted by Cayle

Because it is an admission that they could not find someone through their social network, marking them as less desirable; after all if they were desirable, they would have no problems going through social networks.

really??? gosh - really!
gosh - that is such a whatever reasoning. [ and i am not being judgemental here ]
just surprised i guess - gosh, thanks cayle and greenaasgrass -

this is what happens when you see too many of them you-got-mail movies

:brishti

so what did your profile read nick?

Cayle · Jun 26th, 2008, 17:19

Quote:

Originally Posted by brishti

really??? gosh - really!
gosh - that is such a whatever reasoning. [ and i am not being judgemental here ]
just surprised i guess - gosh, thanks cayle and greenaasgrass -

this is what happens when you see too many of them you-got-mail movies

:brishti

so what did your profile read nick?

Just remember, it IS a generational thing and it is also changing.

federica · Jun 26th, 2008, 17:19

Newspaper matrimonial ads used to be an option only if you really couldn't find anyone... or just for fun. (my opinion...)

Matrimonial sites on the internet are somehow different, internet is "chic" and so is finding your partner online.

Looking for a match that "suits" is not only common in India.... agencies like Parship or Elitepartner in Germany advertise with "x % academics on our site".

karuna · Jun 26th, 2008, 18:06

British personals are great.

BBW WLTM NS solvent M with GSOH for LTR, MM. Also up for NSA fun w WH guy.

Though I have to say, I like best the occasional funny ones you get, like: "Waster, 37, lives with mother. Seeks stunningly beautiful, slim blonde, 18-25. Must like housework."

I wonder if they're ever successful?

Nick-H · Jun 26th, 2008, 18:11

One of the best ones I ever saw was in a really-cheapo (I don't think it survived) local Chennai rag. It had more misprints than most newspapers can manage in an entire edition.

It went something like Tamil bromine seeks bridge...

Actually, the entire column of small ads had obvious been typeset from bad handwriting by a non-English-speaker.

You can see a small selection of their gems in my post -->here

greenasgrass · Jun 26th, 2008, 18:23

I got most of that Karuna, except BBW. Big Blue Whale? Bad boy waster? I suspect it's more likely to be Big Beautiful Woman. Can you enlighten us?

Nick-H · Jun 26th, 2008, 18:42

Following your clues, I think you're nearly there... I think it is Big Black Woman.

karuna · Jun 26th, 2008, 18:50

I'ts Big Beautiful Woman, although Big Blue Whale is approximately the same thing!

Apparently according to some de-coding site it can also be Big Breasted Woman. I think I just don't read those kind of personal ads....

brishti · Jun 26th, 2008, 19:09

Quote:

Originally Posted by karuna

British personals are great.

BBW WLTM NS solvent M with GSOH for LTR, MM. Also up for NSA fun w WH guy.
Though I have to say, I like best the occasional funny ones you get, like: "Waster, 37, lives with mother. Seeks stunningly beautiful, slim blonde, 18-25. Must like housework."

you gotta tell us more girl - you just got to!
i'm showing you mine - you go to show me yours

firstest - decoding - i'm indian and the best i can come up for WLTM is = wait listed tango male...

please pretty please

:brishti

greenasgrass · Jun 27th, 2008, 00:26

I can't keep Brishti in suspense any longer, so with apologies for stepping on Karuna's toes:

Quote:

Originally Posted by karuna

BBW WLTM NS solvent M with GSOH for LTR, MM. Also up for NSA fun w WH guy.

Big, Beautiful Woman Would Like To Meet solvent Man [or Male] with Good Sense Of Humour for Long Term Relationship, Maybe Marriage. [So far, so mundane]

Also up for No Strings Attached fun With Well Hung guy.

I should attach a disclaimer to this, that this is not an advert for male admirers on my part!

AwayFromHome · Jun 27th, 2008, 01:02

Quote:

Originally Posted by Nick-H

As nosianai says, there are certain definite external marks that Brahmins may or may not exhibit.

If I scored 60%, my wife would score 90%. She would have the advantage of vocabulary and accent, as well as external signs --- these things will announce origin and caste as clearly to an Indian as a Yorkshire or Cornish accent will appear different to an Englishman.

Beg to disagree on several accounts.

I knew (vaguely) that I was a Brahmin while I grew up. Never asked for or received any further information. I grew up in India (till age 27) and never knew, and still don't, the castes of any of my friends. As far as I know, neither did my parents or my brother. It was simply a non-issue. None of my friends enquired about my caste too. I suspect there is an immense number of middle class (economic) Indians who would pay more attention to the cuurent pay for such-and-such job, the relative cuteness of that boy/girl, the price of onions ad-naseum....than anyone's caste.

Apparently their is thing called Gotra (help me out please, Indians with more depth in these matters). I was asked for it while doing a Puja for my son's 1st B'day by the andit. I had no clue. Had to call my parents in India who somewhat apologetically told me I was the highest Gotra (Saraswati, I think) of Brahmin. I still don't know or care what that means.

Maybe its the neighborhoods I've lived in - but no one I personally knew seemed to give a f**k about caste.

AwayFromHome · Jun 27th, 2008, 01:08

Quote:

Originally Posted by karuna

British personals are great.

BBW WLTM NS solvent M with GSOH for LTR, MM. Also up for NSA fun w WH guy.

Though I have to say, I like best the occasional funny ones you get, like: "Waster, 37, lives with mother. Seeks stunningly beautiful, slim blonde, 18-25. Must like housework."

I wonder if they're ever successful?

I find this hilarious, and have zero idea about what it means. Decode, please?

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Cayle Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Bangalore Posts: 129	Because it is an admission that they could not find someone through their social network, marking them as less desirable; after all if they were desirable, they would have no problems going through social networks. This is changing however and 20'somethings have no such stigma attached. My cousin met his wife through online personals. __________________ Blog - http://ayearinindia.wordpress.com/ Panoramo Photos - http://www.panoramio.com/user/1275355 Last edited by Cayle : Jun 26th, 2008 at 17:00. Reason: fixed type

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karuna The cat's mother Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: the wrong side of the Y-A-M-U-N-A Posts: 1,843	British personals are great. BBW WLTM NS solvent M with GSOH for LTR, MM. Also up for NSA fun w WH guy. Though I have to say, I like best the occasional funny ones you get, like: "Waster, 37, lives with mother. Seeks stunningly beautiful, slim blonde, 18-25. Must like housework." I wonder if they're ever successful? __________________ Indiamike mod squad's odd bod. Arre yaar, kya bat hai? [Indian Mona Lisa by Dinesh; can't find original uploader to credit in full.]

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greenasgrass Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Exeter, UK Posts: 73	Hmmm... I got most of that Karuna, except BBW. Big Blue Whale? Bad boy waster? I suspect it's more likely to be Big Beautiful Woman. Can you enlighten us?

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Jun 26th, 2008, 17:19	#51
federica Maha Guru Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Bavaria Posts: 1,084	Newspaper matrimonial ads used to be an option only if you really couldn't find anyone... or just for fun. (my opinion...) Matrimonial sites on the internet are somehow different, internet is "chic" and so is finding your partner online. Looking for a match that "suits" is not only common in India.... agencies like Parship or Elitepartner in Germany advertise with "x % academics on our site".

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Nick-H Loud-mouthed, Noisy Bird Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Chennai, India Posts: 27,684	One of the best ones I ever saw was in a really-cheapo (I don't think it survived) local Chennai rag. It had more misprints than most newspapers can manage in an entire edition. It went something like Tamil bromine seeks bridge... Actually, the entire column of small ads had obvious been typeset from bad handwriting by a non-English-speaker. You can see a small selection of their gems in my post -->here

Jun 26th, 2008, 18:42	#55
Nick-H Loud-mouthed, Noisy Bird Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Chennai, India Posts: 27,684	Following your clues, I think you're nearly there... I think it is Big Black Woman.

Jun 26th, 2008, 18:50	#56
karuna The cat's mother Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: the wrong side of the Y-A-M-U-N-A Posts: 1,843	I'ts Big Beautiful Woman, although Big Blue Whale is approximately the same thing! Apparently according to some de-coding site it can also be Big Breasted Woman. I think I just don't read those kind of personal ads....

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