My wife doesn't wanna go

I've been to India quite a few times and am planning on going back this summer. I want to take my wife, but after hearing my stories on how "warm" places like New Delhi are in early summer at the onset of monsoon she is very reluctant. We visited Calcutta and Varanasi a few Christmas's ago, but she says "no" to summer travel. I'd go without her, but then I'll have to take her on another different trip to somewhere much less exotic and much more expensive...
Any thoughts on how I could entice her? Promises of only staying at airconditioned hotels isn't working.

Perhaps you could promise your wife the trip to the less exotic, more expensive destination. Follow through on the air-conditioned hotels offer as well, have designated shopping days at upscale malls, suggest that she spend the day at the salon (which very cheap compared to here for luxurious services) when you are doing some activity she may enjoy less (like visiting slums for your art) and your wife may have so much fun that she need not take you up on the less exotic, more expensive destination. Or, not for some time at least.

My wife is lukewarm on the place. I don't wait for her, but go when I can. She knows I'm addicted and accepts it. Hope you can get the same understanding from yours.
India isn't a country for those who don't wan to go, IMHO. Accept it and do what ya gotta do

why do you have to take her on a different trip? maybe while you go to india she can go wherever she wants to go - then you'll both be happy.

if thats a big no - then how about going up north to the mountains where it won't be so hot!

she can do a wonderful health retreat up in the himalaya......lovely massages, ayurvedic treatments, exotic temples, delicious foods.......etc........etc.... .amazing views, interesting travellers, kind locals, yoga.......etc....etc......... oh dear, i can almost smell it........

exactly my sentiments ambika. Up north its paradise & u can do all kinds of magic with the landscape/people there

Sometimes it's the right thing to travel separately...I love my fiance, but hate the cold. He's snowboarding right now (without me), and next month I go to India(without him).
Then we'll take our next trip together (cambodia)...compromise is a valuable tool, this way we get to be with who we love AND do what we love.

There is the possibility that the heat is just an excuse, and her 'love' for India isn't as strong as you think.

I think you could regret taking someone who doesn't want to go.

BTW, I understand the 'other holiday' situation, "If you have a holiday, I want one" and "if you love me, you'd want to go on holiday with me!!"

Good luck.

thats nice hawaiiyoga - i think this would also keep the balance in the relationship so you have different things to talk about, its impotant to have your own thing. there's nothing better than that feeling of being on your own doing your own thing whilst missing a part of you and looking forward to see each other soon - my partner loves yoga and is looking forward to coming to india with me - but he's also mad on aikido and is gonna do his own solo thing in india (apparently theres aikido in calcutta) and i'll go to one of the sivananda ashrams, we'll then meet up later.
good luck with what you decide slumpainter!

Steven is absolutely right. Never travel with an unwilling person, its a complete waste of money & time. As I had said earlier that India isn't much of a husband wife destination. Only very few are fortunate where both husband & wife are in Love with India.

Why? jyotirmoy Why?

Nirola,
That is my experience. I have many friends & friends of friends who had travelled to India, some once & some more than once when single. Many of them had told stories about their travels in India & dashed off to India after marriage. For most the trip turned out a disaster & for a few it was such an experience that they keep coming back & we keep visiting them.
Please note that it is my experience only.

sir , i would appreciate if u could give reason for that, its fine u have ur experinces but u should have known the reasons for that, as it would be a caution statement for the prospective tourists.

so reason for that should be there ............. and not mere a statement (poll)

How does that song go ?

D I V O........... ha ha

I totally agree with jyotirmoy, but have no time to give a longer reply at the moment, will try later.

I went with my best friend (of 20 years) and he drove me up the wall, I never realised how different we were, the differences seemed all the worse when we had a few bad days.

I understand the addiction to India but I wouldn't place it above a spouse. Shorten your time in India to just a week or whatever and spend the majority of your vacation together with her in someplace she wants to visit - and love her up and pamper her for putting up with your addiction!