Indians shun traditional matchmakers and try to click with someone online

incitatus · Sep 1st, 2007, 19:16

Marriage in the 21st century. Is this true?

Indians shun traditional matchmakers and try to click with someone online
Jeremy Page in Shivani Khanna Delhi

Finding a spouse has always been a lottery in India, where dating - let alone premarital sex - is frowned on and 95 per cent of all marriages are still arranged.

.......subscribed to Shaadi.com, one of India’s two top matrimonial websites. Suddenly she was not looking at a dozen crumpled resumés but at hundreds of thousands of profiles on the site, which claims to have ten million registered users and 300 million page views per month. ...

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/new...cle2364423.ece

icetea · Sep 1st, 2007, 19:22

Onine matrimonial websites have been a big business in India for several years now.

batistuta · Sep 1st, 2007, 19:26

Yes, and based on the success of Shaadi........ Many more websites have sprung up which cater to People who are comfortable with this concept.

fly2raven · Sep 1st, 2007, 20:46

I was introduced to these sights by my indian friends before I even started dating my husband - 7 years ago - and they were so funny...we would read them out to each other and just laugh

I couldn't believe how often the word 'fair' was used

mirjamd · Sep 1st, 2007, 20:53

I put my profile on bharatmatrimony as a joke, stating i was 'very fair'. 6 proposals within half a day

but seriously, it is a way for educated, well-off people to find a partner. it gives you the freedom to choose somebody you MIGHT like, instead of waiting for your parents to find you somebody. I have a friend who is now happily married because of Shaadi. but you're right fly2raven, some profiles are hilarious

shashank.aggarwal · Sep 1st, 2007, 21:02

Quote:

Originally Posted by mirjamd

I put my profile on bharatmatrimony as a joke, stating i was 'very fair'. 6 proposals within half a day

but seriously, it is a way for educated, well-off people to find a partner. it gives you the freedom to choose somebody you MIGHT like, instead of waiting for your parents to find you somebody. I have a friend who is now happily married because of Shaadi. but you're right fly2raven, some profiles are hilarious

well besides these matrimonial sites, we have whole supplements in newpapers reserved for matrimonial classifieds...!! and over there as well you will find lot of hilarious things !!

dhans · Sep 2nd, 2007, 01:54

Quote:

Originally Posted by shashank.aggarwal

well besides these matrimonial sites, we have whole supplements in newpapers reserved for matrimonial classifieds...!! and over there as well you will find lot of hilarious things !!

The main reason to buy the sunday papers!! I used to read these classifieds out loud to my wife during our honeymoon. Lots of laughs!

Caste no bar!!

Hans

Nick-H · Sep 2nd, 2007, 02:16

This is so not-new, I suspect it is an advertisement! There are heaps of column inches in the Indian press that are obviously straight out of the press release for some company or product. If someone posted like this to IndiaMike we'd swing the no-adverts axe on it straight away.

Yes, there is lots of laughs and lots of sadness too.

I had to do something before I discovered IndiaMike --- and yes, I've spent hours trawling through online matrimonials. There are some things I'll never forget, like the oh-by-the-way mention that a woman had no legs, or, the most heart-rending of all, the sole survivor of husband murdered the family and killed himself. I'm afraid the number of women who got well-screwed by NRIs is legion. Marrying just for the dowry, or just to please the family, or maybe just for a chance to practice sadism, according to a couple of people I actually met.

I don't know, maybe the men on the sites have stories to tell too, but I wasn't reading their profiles!

But mostly, its people just like you and me. Matrimonial columns have been running in the newspapers for yonks, it was only a matter of time before it went online.

I met people, made friends, heard stories --- and met my wife!

wonderwomanusa · Sep 2nd, 2007, 09:41

Oh, I just love the Shaadi.com website; there are even senior citizens represented there.

Nick-H · Sep 2nd, 2007, 17:57

I didn't meet my wife on Shaadi, by the way, but on another site.

I was quite serious about finding someone to marry as part of my plans for Part Two of my life and joined up with several sites. I met Mrs N through one of the few I didn't pay any money to.

It's a great system, and, although god forbid that I should need to, I'd do it again!

crowgirl · Sep 6th, 2007, 05:15

I haven't seen the online versions but did read the local paper w/ matrimonial ads in Channai.

It felt like all the men wanted Young- FAIR- Slim- Lovely- Educated- Homely women. I could not figure out the Homely bit after first asking for Lovely until someone told me it meant homemaker.

I did spot more than a few where they said Caste No Problem and Divorced OK as well which seemed to me to be fairly liberal and up to modern standards in attitude.

Nick-H · Sep 6th, 2007, 09:24

There may be some fairly liberal, but such easy-going atitude may also mean beggars-can't-be-choosers!

I had a thread a few years back: The Language of Matrimony.

I find the newspaper ads baffling, as they tend to offer no detail whatsoever other than the basic caste, profession, income; much more of a 'blind date' than the online stuff.

kalyani68 · Sep 8th, 2007, 02:34

My husband and I found each other through one of those sites about 4 years ago. As a non-Indian, I didn't have much competition back then and so I attracted all kinds of responses. It was rather fun, and in my case, ultimately rewarding.

Sep 1st, 2007, 19:16	#1
incitatus Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: UK Posts: 207	Indians shun traditional matchmakers and try to click with someone online Marriage in the 21st century. Is this true? Indians shun traditional matchmakers and try to click with someone online Jeremy Page in Shivani Khanna Delhi Finding a spouse has always been a lottery in India, where dating - let alone premarital sex - is frowned on and 95 per cent of all marriages are still arranged. .......subscribed to Shaadi.com, one of India’s two top matrimonial websites. Suddenly she was not looking at a dozen crumpled resumés but at hundreds of thousands of profiles on the site, which claims to have ten million registered users and 300 million page views per month. ... http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/new...cle2364423.ece

Sep 2nd, 2007, 02:16	#8
Nick-H Loud-mouthed, Noisy Bird Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Chennai, India Posts: 27,763	This is so not-new, I suspect it is an advertisement! There are heaps of column inches in the Indian press that are obviously straight out of the press release for some company or product. If someone posted like this to IndiaMike we'd swing the no-adverts axe on it straight away. Yes, there is lots of laughs and lots of sadness too. I had to do something before I discovered IndiaMike --- and yes, I've spent hours trawling through online matrimonials. There are some things I'll never forget, like the oh-by-the-way mention that a woman had no legs, or, the most heart-rending of all, the sole survivor of husband murdered the family and killed himself. I'm afraid the number of women who got well-screwed by NRIs is legion. Marrying just for the dowry, or just to please the family, or maybe just for a chance to practice sadism, according to a couple of people I actually met. I don't know, maybe the men on the sites have stories to tell too, but I wasn't reading their profiles! But mostly, its people just like you and me. Matrimonial columns have been running in the newspapers for yonks, it was only a matter of time before it went online. I met people, made friends, heard stories --- and met my wife! __________________ . Just one member of the IndiaMike Mod Team

Sep 6th, 2007, 05:15	#11
crowgirl Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Minneapolis, MN USA Posts: 162	I haven't seen the online versions but did read the local paper w/ matrimonial ads in Channai. It felt like all the men wanted Young- FAIR- Slim- Lovely- Educated- Homely women. I could not figure out the Homely bit after first asking for Lovely until someone told me it meant homemaker. I did spot more than a few where they said Caste No Problem and Divorced OK as well which seemed to me to be fairly liberal and up to modern standards in attitude. __________________ S/he who laughs lasts

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mirjamd Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Chennai Posts: 340	I put my profile on bharatmatrimony as a joke, stating i was 'very fair'. 6 proposals within half a day but seriously, it is a way for educated, well-off people to find a partner. it gives you the freedom to choose somebody you MIGHT like, instead of waiting for your parents to find you somebody. I have a friend who is now happily married because of Shaadi. but you're right fly2raven, some profiles are hilarious

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kalyani68 Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Midwest USA Posts: 215	My husband and I found each other through one of those sites about 4 years ago. As a non-Indian, I didn't have much competition back then and so I attracted all kinds of responses. It was rather fun, and in my case, ultimately rewarding.

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