Indian Men, Shy or Aggressive ?????

#16 Jun 23rd, 2005, 05:03
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I hope the way Western women have had to sue and lobby for a very broad range of activities to be defined as harrassment is enlightening to Indian guys about just what western men in the past have been up to!

Probably stuff that wouldn't even occur to an Indian guy.

I'm sure if you talked to a lot of guys in Western offices you might find that they are walking around on eggshells now too. Hopefully the mutual paranoia will calm down eventually and relationships between the sexes will stablize on a new level of mutual respect. That's the plan anyways.
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I'm not sure if this is the point, but why would the "groping" reputation and this incident be irreconcilable? So there is a problem with anonymous sexual harassment by men in India; so an Indian man was embarassed by a mildly explicit display of sexuality from a woman. Both of these things are most consistent with a sexually repressed, patriarchal, sexist society, which India undisputably is.

Since there has been a sexual revolution in the West this kind of behavior, though not common, is not such a big deal here (it is still far more common for men to get drunk and hit on women, obviously). Female sexuality is still a taboo issue in India; sure you see some talk of it in the mainstream media, but it is not at all part of everyday life.
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Originally Posted by snowcrab ... ... ... I'm sure if you talked to a lot of guys in Western offices you might find that they are walking around on eggshells now too. ... ... ...
Might be better if a few more were. Still plenty of discrimination and harassment in offices, surely? Certainly is in London.
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Originally Posted by phantom Hey all,
For quite some time there have been this discussion about the Indian males being quite aggressive and groping kinds...!!! While that is not far from truth, but its a generalisation that we can do without.. . Anyways, I was witness to a pretty interesting incident some time back and just wanted to share and all of you can make your own opinion about it.

Me and some friends went to this pub called "ZeroGravity", some 10 days back. It was a pretty scarce crowd there at that time, with groups of people scattered around and nice retro music playing. While me and my friends were waiting there, for some more people to join us and were having a round of drinks, that the real fun began ..!!

Now, there was one group sitting right behind us, where we were standing, which was very noisy and was a mix of both foreigners and Indians. Suddenly, without any warning, a white foreigner lady stood up and walked to our group and asked my friend for dance ....!!! Now, imagine, a 20-something Indian software engineer, not exactly a nerd but still not a shake-thy-hip type, and one 45 something white female, good looking though and visibly drunk. He was shocked and couldnt even reply. So that lady asked him again "What's your name, boy ?" and he muttered his name. The next question she asked, "Are you embarrassed ?" By that time her whole group was in roars and our group, apart from that poor guy, were smirking and waiting for his replies. So after this that lady went back amidst applause and high-five's from her friends.. and we started taunting that guy .... Suddenly that lady stood up again and did a jig behind the pillar, that my friend was standing along with (Just like those hollywood movie scenes when a girl tries to seduce a guy ). Her friends by now started whistling .... .... Then she grabbed my friends hands and pulled him for dancing.. and he just panicked.. and there was a commotion.. lol.. it was so funny. We started booing him.. her friends were laughing.. and then that lady left that guy and went to another and asked him "Are you scared of me ?? " and that guy just ran away ... he he he.. can you believe it !!!

Now that guy is not exactly the kinda guy who will shun a girl. He dates girls, is a very smooth talker with a thick accent, enjoys good food and booze. But was totally stumped by that lady, who was just having a blast that night..

Have anybody of you have seen something or have tried harrassing a guy like this..
LOL phantom. quite an interesting post. I think Indian men born in India are similar to the above mentioned behavior.
NRI or PIOs are another different story though. I have seen that NRI or PIO girls are more outgoing than their indian-born counterparts.
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Originally Posted by agni5454 LOL phantom. quite an interesting post. I think Indian men born in India are similar to the above mentioned behavior.
NRI or PIOs are another different story though. I have seen that NRI or PIO girls are more outgoing than their indian-born counterparts.
Thanks agni.. I hope people are not taking this thread too seriously.. I just posted a funny incident and never intended to make any comment on female sexual liberation in India
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It will happen eventually. Indian women are very powerful in those social spheres in which they wish at this moment to be powerful. When they move into the workforce, into offices and shops and out onto the street they will expand that influence as they need it. Western women have just been working outside the home for a very little longer and it's made a large difference in what the whole culture accepts as acceptable behavior.

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