Indian men --- no housework ?

puchoo · Jun 9th, 2008, 15:27

This is a strong possibility....but when it comes to Mrs P....lets stick to the "the beer was not enough" story...always!!!

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Originally Posted by shashank.aggarwal

I guess you underestimated your capacity of Drinking and overestimated the beer you had..

Nick-H · Jun 9th, 2008, 15:40

Even my wife never did any housework or cooking in her young days: it was all done by servants. I've met several Indian women who say the same.

Among the men, there are some that do,and some that don't.

I have to confess that I have never been so lazy as I have become since getting married!

federica · Jun 9th, 2008, 15:50

So true... I lived with Indian girls at the beginning of their 20s and almost unable to cook.

One male Indian friend made his first noodles for me when I was sick... his sister couldn't believe it, as he did 0 housework at home.

On the other hand: I have never seen so many men doing the laundry than I saw India, and so many men of different age ironing their shirts! I never saw my dad with an iron...

In general it is true that men don't do housework, but "in general" in India means more exception of this rule than in the rest of the world

brishti · Jun 9th, 2008, 16:41

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Originally Posted by smilingfish

It's a shock to know that my bf can be very independant(doing houswork,etc)when he live in US many years ago, but he will not even make a coffee by himself when he back to India his home. We had a few discussions on this, but seemed this is sth mainly related with Indian cultures which are deeply growed inside his mind and unable to change (at lease for the time being)...

its called double-standards.

a man dont necessarily have to go abroad and get an 'exposure' in order to do stuff in the house - irrelevant of household help and/or assistance from mum/sisters/aunts/the merry-ole-ladies of the neighbourhood pitching in.

i agree with edvardII - thawk him

:brishti

smilingfish · Jun 9th, 2008, 19:07

Education does not eradicate culture. Yes, you are right. But i belive a educated person tends to have an more openly mind. Or i would say a person whom have more life/work experiences do bring one more flexibility of acceptance and adjustment to the developed concept instead of sticking to the old culture.

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Originally Posted by Haylo

Then living with him in India may prove difficult and frustrating for you, unless you can afford help. However I think the issue is not about who does the housework, but about wider equality issues.

Education does not eradicate culture.

Especially if it means doing housework!

federica · Jun 9th, 2008, 19:11

I've seen more uneducated men doing housework - I think the educated ones mostly can afford servants and don't need to... and if they have to, it depends highly on their personality.

praks · Jun 9th, 2008, 19:20

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Originally Posted by puchoo

Nope i did not even burn one thing....infact i managed to streamline the entire process a bit....!!

Er..did you switch that iron on?

ananth_tm · Jun 9th, 2008, 19:21

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Originally Posted by Alohaguy

I was born and raised in India. Had never done any housework at all. Couldn't even make chai...Hopeless isn't it? There was always help available. If not, mother or sisters were supposed to do it. Boy! was I in for a shock when I left India! Yep, I had to learn it all and now there is nothing I can not do. One has to "When in Rome, do as Romans do".

I gotta say, you wrote what I thought of saying

puchoo · Jun 9th, 2008, 20:09

Im not that bad either...!!!!!

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Originally Posted by praks

Er..did you switch that iron on?

Sama · Jun 9th, 2008, 20:37

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Originally Posted by capt_mahajan

I don't like to do housework....

neither do most women I know. but women end up doing the majority of it because they don't want to listen to the whining and moaning from men about it...."waaaah....honey, how do I do this?"......"waaaah.....where does this go......." which is a bunch of crap anyway because any knucklehead can figure it out, it's not rocket science.....

personally I think it's a crime if a mother doesn't teach her son how to sew a button, wash a floor, wash his clothes, etc.

praks · Jun 9th, 2008, 20:46

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Originally Posted by Sama

..it's not rocket science.....

That's why it's best left to women.

Sama · Jun 9th, 2008, 20:52

I'll leave the other women on this site to tell you what they think of that remark....mine would be cause for banishment.

NowInBangalore · Jun 9th, 2008, 21:09

It is not such a big deal not doing housework in India. Actually, if you can provide employment to someone, and treat her with respect, give her some time off with pay, etc, that will be a good contribution. (a lot of servants in India are not even treated well).

Circumstances are different in different countries. A house in America needs to be cleaned just once a week, whereas in India you have to sweep and mop and dust and clean EVERY SINGLE day!

Even I did not do any housework or cooking while growing up as an Indian girl in India, but when I needed to, I learnt Indian cooking in America. I hated doing housework, I still do, but I do not think it should be held negatively against me. Not everyone enjoys doing everything! I do however cook very seriously just for the sake of the health of my children. Growing up, we were just middle-class in India, yet could afford a daily cleaner - labour was cheap.

It is always economics. If a job can be outsourced, why not?

In India, it is no point fighting in a marriage about who does housework, who does not - economics are such that this job can easily be outsourced.

Hope that helps.

Inua · Jun 9th, 2008, 21:59

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That's why it's best left to women.

Thats ok honey, you can wear the trousers if your afraid to don an apron but we all know she'll still beat you with the belt

praks · Jun 9th, 2008, 22:29

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Originally Posted by Inua

Thats ok honey, you can wear the trousers if your afraid to don an apron but we all know she'll still beat you with the belt

Is that what you do to him? God! There's more spanking happening here than we would've guessed.

Jun 9th, 2008, 15:40	#17
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federica Maha Guru Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Bavaria Posts: 1,093	So true... I lived with Indian girls at the beginning of their 20s and almost unable to cook. One male Indian friend made his first noodles for me when I was sick... his sister couldn't believe it, as he did 0 housework at home. On the other hand: I have never seen so many men doing the laundry than I saw India, and so many men of different age ironing their shirts! I never saw my dad with an iron... In general it is true that men don't do housework, but "in general" in India means more exception of this rule than in the rest of the world

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federica Maha Guru Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Bavaria Posts: 1,093	I've seen more uneducated men doing housework - I think the educated ones mostly can afford servants and don't need to... and if they have to, it depends highly on their personality.

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Sama a pain in the asana Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: the India inside my heart Posts: 5,463	I'll leave the other women on this site to tell you what they think of that remark....mine would be cause for banishment.

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NowInBangalore Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Bangalore, India Posts: 89	It is not such a big deal not doing housework in India. Actually, if you can provide employment to someone, and treat her with respect, give her some time off with pay, etc, that will be a good contribution. (a lot of servants in India are not even treated well). Circumstances are different in different countries. A house in America needs to be cleaned just once a week, whereas in India you have to sweep and mop and dust and clean EVERY SINGLE day! Even I did not do any housework or cooking while growing up as an Indian girl in India, but when I needed to, I learnt Indian cooking in America. I hated doing housework, I still do, but I do not think it should be held negatively against me. Not everyone enjoys doing everything! I do however cook very seriously just for the sake of the health of my children. Growing up, we were just middle-class in India, yet could afford a daily cleaner - labour was cheap. It is always economics. If a job can be outsourced, why not? In India, it is no point fighting in a marriage about who does housework, who does not - economics are such that this job can easily be outsourced. Hope that helps.

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