I'm struggling in India this time!

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Hi all,
I find myself struggling with India this time around. Ive been here 3 weeks only, of a 3 month planned trip! First stop was Gokarna, which was ok at Kudle beach, but after a week i needed a change of scenery.
Then i was in Mysore, Pondicherry and now Tiruvannamalai. Been to Auroville which was peaceful, but did not stay there.
My main source of discomfort is the constant noise, horns, autos ripping around, dust, fumes. I know this is india and need to get used to it or leave!

Ive been in India 3 years ago for a 5 month trip and dont remember feeling like this.
Can anyone recommend any peaceful areas around s india?
Im going to Sri Lanka in early january, maybe it will suit me better there.
Thanks for reading
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Hampi.

The hills, Coorg in the South, Himalayas in the North or East (will be cold in the latter, though)

The smaller and 'wetter' the place the better for noise, dust or fumes.

Err, SriLanka, too, get out of Colombo or Kandy etc.
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Originally Posted by Moon Guy View Post Hi all,
I find myself struggling with India this time around. Ive been here 3 weeks only, of a 3 month planned trip! First stop was Gokarna, which was ok at Kudle beach, but after a week i needed a change of scenery.
Then i was in Mysore, Pondicherry and now Tiruvannamalai. Been to Auroville which was peaceful, but did not stay there.
My main source of discomfort is the constant noise, horns, autos ripping around, dust, fumes. I know this is india and need to get used to it or leave!

Ive been in India 3 years ago for a 5 month trip and dont remember feeling like this.
Can anyone recommend any peaceful areas around s india?
Im going to Sri Lanka in early january, maybe it will suit me better there.
Thanks for reading
This is probably me talking nonsense, but....

I've went through the whole 'I've had enough of India' phase, and I don't think that's what you're going through, when you can point out all the things that locals do that really piss you off, when you never want to see another bloody temple, when you want to slap the next person who approaches you, when the thought of another Chai or another Masala Dosa makes you feel sick, then maybe you've had enough of India.

Till then, 4 bits of advice.

first, drink more water, then more and more, I struggle to do this in India, and often find my mood changing because of it.

2nd., remove yourself from your trip, sod seeing a temple today, splash out 3 x your budget and get a really great room for a couple of days, a great bathroom and a decent TV, watch nonsense on the telly and get the staff to bring you food and water, catch up with all the news from home, find out how Donald Trump is F'ing the world, and try to find some live football, anything to get your mind off India.

3rd., It's also worth looking at the weather back home, that always makes me smile, then thinking you could be starting your working day back home.....

4th., something that works for me, go and find some poor tourist who's having a worse time than you, find a tourist hotspot, find a nice seat where you can relax and watch the touts descend on the whitest tourist, it sound horrible, but I find it really funny watching them, if you then feel guilty, go and take that tourist for a coffee/beer and give him/her the benefit of your experience.
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If he wants to get away from noise and dust I would not recommend Hampi!

I just got back from there and I've never in all my trips seen so much road construction and/or demolition going on.
Hampi-Hospet area itself wasn't all that quiet. And still lots of crazy traffic on bad roads.

I'd recommend some of the smaller, lesser known beaches in Goa. I don't mean like Patnem or Palolem.

Or Varkala, Kerala -- so quiet it's damn boring.
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Originally Posted by Moon Guy View Post My main source of discomfort is the constant noise, horns, autos ripping around, dust, fumes. I know this is india and need to get used to it or leave!
Understandable.

I can remember reading that the number of vehicles on Indian roads had tripled in a short time, and that was quite a few years ago. In my time here, it might have increased ten-fold. What makes this so much worse is the ten-fold increase in aggression and decrease in courtesy that makes Indian roads no pleasure to be on or near. And all this is before taking into account the resultant increase in pollution.

Well, I say no pleasure... to be honest, I do still enjoy my driving here, but if I was a visitor, and coming after several years, I think I would find it nothing short of an assault on the senses and nerves.

But yeah... This is how it is, and we have to take it or leave it.

I am, by the way, a daily driver in an Indian city. Part of the problem!
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Some years ago we spend some time at the beach of Vodarevu. It is situated near Chirala in the Vijaywada region.
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Tharangambadi (Tranquebar) could be an option.
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Im going to Sri Lanka in early january, maybe it will suit me better there.
Thanks for reading
Some "secret" beaches advice from someone who lives in Goa:

Keri Beach, border of Maharashtra

Cola Beach near Agoda

Galgibaga Beach, below Patnem. I can attest -- empty, dude.
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Agree with OP that the traffic. pollution has reached off the Richter scale, as has the disregard motorists in India to their fellow road users.

Sadly my last visit was the last.

First time i agree with Nick!!!!!!!!.

However he has thrown his lot in with India, and there is no other option in his situation.

I think N korea has a cheap economy, but who wants to go there.
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Thanks everyone,
Im feeling a little better now today, a problem shared is a problem halfed and all that!!
Also met some people today whom i met before. I think emotional isolation is part of the problem also.
Tranquebar looks interesting.
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No doubt the mystique of India, or charm was it, has worn very, very thin.... population, congestion, pollution and the whole traffic thing as mentioned is completely tiresome and wearying.. for everyone. I guess it's easy to bitch on about it. Mercifully in the hills it's a different scenario, especially blissfull in winter.
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Originally Posted by Moon Guy View Post Hi all,
I find myself struggling with India this time around. Ive been here 3 weeks only, of a 3 month planned trip


Ive been in India 3 years ago for a 5 month trip and dont remember feeling like this.
What did you do in your first trip differently that you are not doing now ? Just take the same...rinse, wash ...repeat.

Hmmm...3 years, would be 2014 ?
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Get away from the crowds; visit a village; go to the North East; or the Andamans.
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I second capt_mahajan's advice above regarding Coorg if you want to stay south of the Vindhyas. Other options are Munnar, Kodaikanal or Coonoor. Mysore for gentle city life, or hit Periyar or Bandipur or even Kanha, Bandhavgarh, Tadoba or Pench tiger reserve.

I have spent years at a time in India and am of Indian origin, but it even gets to me at times, usually the heat and dust and noise and obduracy and crowds and stench and...

I usually hit a fancy bar and sooth my nerves. Works most of the time for me.
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Originally Posted by fsg View Post Agree with OP that the traffic. pollution has reached off the Richter scale, as has the disregard motorists in India to their fellow road users.
Definitely the traffic craziness has increased IMO. And everything else that people have mentioned. Obduracy is good word.

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Sadly my last visit was the last.
Thinking about it, after 13 trips. Life changes.

And I totally understand what the OP says. I'm in Panjim, the last city of my trip. Yeah, different, but really? The time to stop is when you become totally jaded and cynical about a place or when there's no more joy in discovering something new.

Or maybe that's my Delhi Belly talking -- I haven't eaten in 3 days.

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