Alliances invited

Steve your matrimony adv with a taste of food is indeed apt.

Selecting life partner is more like going to a Tandoori restaurant with friends. You go through the menu. You don’t want to order any known items. You are curious and want something ‘new’. You want to beat friends by having the exotic .

Everyone pick and order fancy looking items from the menu.Not knowing what exactly is it. You wait patiently. The food is served one by one. The whole table is filled with colorful and decorated items. Everyone jealousy look at what their neighbors have ordered.

And think “I should’ve ordered that!”

...and then tasting from one another's plates?

There are many dishes that look appealing, and a mouthful can taste good, but it loses it's appeal before you've ate the whole plate.

There's a reason we all have our absolute favourite dish, and no matter what else we try we always go back to our 'usual', It looks right, smells right, taste's right and feel's right.

Hot, Spicy and with a sting in the tail.

We always go back to our usual because we are naturally resistant to change.

This is true for humans in general.

Hey Beach !

This may be true when selecting a girl for a night's paid sex, not when selecting a life partner !!

I kind of get hungry when I read this thread...
I think I will go and have a sandwich (and no - NOT that kind of sandwich - I'm hungry)

Last month I’ve visited a zoo.
At one corner there was a huge cage for monkeys. It was a cage in the open with huge trees and plenty of creepers all around. With a number of monkeys screaming and jumping all around the cage.

Suddenly I noticed that not all the monkeys were inside the cage. No. The cage was locked and intact. Slowly I realized that the monkeys outside the cage were not the ones in the zoo roll but local stray monkeys sneaked into the zoo campus.

I looked close.

The stray ones outside the cage were more bouncy and dynamic. They were entertaining the public more then the official ones who are suppose to do that job. The inmates inside the cage looked more docile and defeated.

Again I realized that the outside monkeys are trying so hard with something in their mind. They wanted to some how get inside the cage. There was a heap of ‘exotic’ foods available inside. A cursory glance revealed of cabbages, carrots, slices of breads and groundnuts. Also with hanging rings and swings to play. The sad ones sitting inside were no more interested in all the special food or facilities and they lost the hope that they can get out and escape.

These remind me of married and unmarried men. The later try hard to somehow get inside the cage. The former feel trapped, tied up and defeated with no way out!!

you all seem to look at partner selection/marriage as a rational process. but who says it is similar to eating? you always need food for survival which is not the case with having the "other half" (some people just come as a complete set)

and sometimes you don't get to chose, you just lose your head over someone. it's like when you are not hungry but see some food that makes you want it so-o-o badly. that you forget about what other people are eating.

and who says marriage is necessary to live happily with someone you love? without "the cage" at least you would know that it is for real.

I think the key to my happy marriage is that I married someone who had raised 2 boys. She's used to grossout humor, stoopod man tricks, and all the malarky that mysteriouslyannoys other women.

Well said Shimla..

I prefer sampling as many women as I can while in India.

oldhippie,

The more the merrier ?

why particularly in India? you mean in other countries women do not let you any closer than a gun's shot?